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libertyrocks posted 7/31/2013 17:30 PM

...of R. haha. It's hard work! :) Anyone else? I love my H again, but geez, if someone told me I'd be a freaking martyr when I grew up, I wouldn't have believed them. To an extent I think we all are. Martyrs for the sake of love we have for our S's, regardless of shit we're dealing with.

Things I think about while listening to everyone here and priding myself on the fact that it takes a big person to forgive.

High road.
Path less traveled.
Makes me stronger.
For love.
For me.
Forgiveness.
Compassion.
Empathy.
Understanding.
H.O.P.E.

I'm sort of ranting today. No harm intended, just trying to reach out. I still wouldn't trade my life or boys for anything. Now, the actions of my H, well, you get the picture...

LosferWords posted 7/31/2013 17:40 PM

For me.

That right there is what doesn't make you a martyr.

I agree, though. It is tiring, and VERY hard work!

I love your list of things to think about. I'm going to borrow that, if you don't mind.

HeartInADustpan posted 7/31/2013 17:54 PM

You hit the nail on the head, liberty. We're pretty close dday#1 and I feel ya. Just remember "[We] can survive this...Talk to others who have.". Just keep on talking.

Hang in there.

crazyblindsided posted 7/31/2013 18:26 PM

Hang in there! I'm hanging by a thread right now. This R rollercoaster IS tiring and some days I want to just get off.

forgivingnow posted 8/1/2013 08:47 AM

"It takes a big person to forgive."

I love your list of positive traits, things to think about.

I'll add...
strength
integrity
passionate

ItsaClimb posted 8/1/2013 09:17 AM

I know just how you feel! I wrote this post some time ago -

http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=500750&AP=1

Pretty much expresses how I was feeling at the time

Schilling posted 8/1/2013 10:22 AM

It is. I told my IC this yesterday. That I was feeling tired... drained and a little indifferent.