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User Topic: I'm So Tired...
♀ 38924
Member # 38924
Default  Posted: 5:30 PM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

...of R. haha. It's hard work! :) Anyone else? I love my H again, but geez, if someone told me I'd be a freaking martyr when I grew up, I wouldn't have believed them. To an extent I think we all are. Martyrs for the sake of love we have for our S's, regardless of shit we're dealing with.

Things I think about while listening to everyone here and priding myself on the fact that it takes a big person to forgive.

High road.
Path less traveled.
Makes me stronger.
For love.
For me.

I'm sort of ranting today. No harm intended, just trying to reach out. I still wouldn't trade my life or boys for anything. Now, the actions of my H, well, you get the picture...

Me-37 Ws-37
2 kids
Dday Nov 2012, TT for a year.
Reconciling for the third time in 4 years.

Posts: 972 | Registered: Apr 2013
♂ 30369
Member # 30369
Default  Posted: 5:40 PM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For me.

That right there is what doesn't make you a martyr.

I agree, though. It is tiring, and VERY hard work!

I love your list of things to think about. I'm going to borrow that, if you don't mind.

Posts: 30662 | Registered: Dec 2010
♀ 38341
Member # 38341
Default  Posted: 5:54 PM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You hit the nail on the head, liberty. We're pretty close dday#1 and I feel ya. Just remember "[We] can survive this...Talk to others who have.". Just keep on talking.

Hang in there.

Just call me Heart. :)
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything" ~Mark Twain

Posts: 379 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: St. Louis
♀ 35215
Member # 35215
Default  Posted: 6:26 PM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hang in there! I'm hanging by a thread right now. This R rollercoaster IS tiring and some days I want to just get off.

BS/FWS (me):44 Madhatter
WS/BS:47 Serial Cheater
Together 20 years, Married 16
DD(14) DS(11)
DDay(s) Too many to count
False R 7/11/14 Same OW2
"Never seek validation from those who are unworthy."

Posts: 4132 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California
♀ 33549
Member # 33549
Default  Posted: 8:47 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"It takes a big person to forgive."

I love your list of positive traits, things to think about.

I'll add...

Me-BS 54
M 34 yrs.
Dday 3-19-11, TT 10/2011, Full truth July 2013
Strength comes from within. You can't get it from someone or go somewhere to get it. It is already here, waiting to be used when you need it most. Believe in yourself.

Posts: 733 | Registered: Oct 2011
♀ 37107
Member # 37107
Default  Posted: 9:17 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know just how you feel! I wrote this post some time ago -

Pretty much expresses how I was feeling at the time

BS 49
Together 32 yrs, M 28 years
2 daughters 27yo(married with 2 children) & 22yo
D-Day 18 Aug 2012
6mth EA lead to 4mth PA with CO-W. I found out 8 1/2 yrs later

Posts: 1310 | Registered: Oct 2012
♀ 39774
Member # 39774
Default  Posted: 10:22 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is. I told my IC this yesterday. That I was feeling tired... drained and a little indifferent.

I am 26(Bgf). He is 36 (Wbf).
On Again, Off Again - 10 years.
Not Married. No Kids.
D-Day: Too many to list/ remember.
Trying to Reconcile.

Posts: 103 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: San Francisco
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