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I want to smash his phone with a hammer. I view it as the instrument of my pain.

Ditto. He used to be secretive with it before I caught him... now it's glued to his pocket and I hardly ever see it. Is it bad that I want to take a hammer to it while it's still in there??

Lol No! I would at least smash his phone... Regardless of its location.

My wife's car is a trigger for me also. I would refuse to ride inside or even touch it. I can ride in it now but I work on hiding my contempt & anger. So glad i refused to cosign her loan because when she left so did her ability to pay for it even without gambling.

She has a new phone thank god because I called her old one the "whore phone". Couldn't stand seeing or hearing it. She truly doesn't understand triggers that do not affect her.

I can ride in it now but I work on hiding my contempt & anger.

Why hide it?

I am so with you on this one. We got rid of our truck also and I swear that it will never be the same color as that one. Trigger big time. God for you for getting a new vehicle for yourself

We still have the truck he used to go see her. When he confessed I refused to get into it until he shampooed the entire interior and steam cleaned it. I wouldn't let him take it in to have it cleaned. I made him do it while I stood there and watched. Oh and I ran his phone over with that very same truck.

[This message edited by girlsbird at 7:32 PM, August 9th (Friday)]

My H didn't understand my trigger either but hes reaping what hes sown. I hate my boys being in it but I have him take my 5yo with him when hes running errands, it cramps his stlye and is more time consuming but hey its better then getting a tracking device implanted in his neck! My baby doesn't lie to his mama. We are going to go get it sometime next week. I cant wait to trade his truck in for the new yukon. He said I can do whatever I want to it nd he wants to get me one of those touch screens that goes where the radio is. I would like to get hands free/ voice activated but its a process. I told him the only thing that would be better then trading it would be if it was wrecked on her dime/ her fault. Is that to harsh? Thank you and Good luck

Wow, I thought I was the only one who felt like that. Only problem is, my WS had them in the house, in my bedroom, in my bed, in my bathrooms, in my kitchen making him meals when I was away.

How do you get rid of a house?

30 years together

I made my WH Burn down the camp that he used. We pushed it down a hill and started it on fire. At first he wanted to gut it out and redo it. I had totally ruined the inside with a knife, spray paint, hammer and a crowbar. There was nothing good left of the inside when I was done, So glad when I watched it go up in flames.

devasted30 I either would sell the house or remodel the house. I do drastic things, Don't know if you do.

During my WHs A we ordered a new car for him. Some of the emails that I found were him describing the car to his AP. He never took her for a test drive or anything like that but it still bugged me. I thought I was over it the day we went to pick up the car. Well, they screwed up the order and it wasn;t what he wanted - so we had a OUT! I was so relieved! We ended up getting a used sports car that both of us have always wanted - which I know to the people that know about the A seems crazy, but it is not THAT OTHER car that in my mind signified part of the A and who he was during that time. Oh, and the car that she sat in is now GONE GONE GONE. Win/Win.

I was gonna say, I hope his truck is gone soon, but I've just decided it WILL be gone soon! Probably sooner than he thinks but it's not his decision, my money went into that POS truck too.

[This message edited by DoneWithLove at 10:49 PM, August 11th (Sunday)]