BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
What she did is awful. You didn't deserve it. Yes, I have said some of the same things about FWH's affair as you have said. The thing is, it doesn't matter. A betrayal is a betrayal is a betrayal. We all feel the same, just some of us have to deal with other or more shit than some others, but it is still a betrayal. No better, no worse.
Please don't ever feel like you shouldn't post because your situation isn't as "bad". It helps to post, to vent, to talk to people who "get" it.
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson