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Topic: How do you deal with ppl that avoid conflict?

Emotionalhell
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Posted: 9:56 PM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013

My fiancé grew up in a family that avoided conflict. Needless to say we very seldom talk about his A.
Any tips in how to deal with this type of personality trait ?

Posts: 88 | Registered: Jul 2013

summerain
♀ 37439
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Posted: 9:57 PM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013

All i can offer is finding a place outside of the house. Our mc recommended the park.

Good luck

OW1 inadvertently let me know WH loves English breakfast tea. Never ever saw him drink it. And I never will.

Posts: 818 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Australia

DOmomma09
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Posted: 10:00 PM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013

I'm really struggling with this as well. My husband almost outright refuses to communicate about anything personal. I can be in tears begging him to just talk to me so we can fix this, and he just says he doesn't know what to say or do. It's really frustrating, but then when I say I can't be with someone who won't try, all of a sudden he says *just* enough to keep me going. Ugh, it really is so frustrating trying to communicate with someone who doesn't know how!

Posts: 53 | Registered: Jul 2013

noescape
♂ 34888
Member # 34888

Posted: 1:43 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013

I guess CA and EU are somewhat related so...look under ICR:
Reconciling with the "Emotionally Unavailable"

not much in the way of a solution, but some insight may help...

Posts: 739 | Registered: Feb 2012

Ostrich80
34827
Member # 34827

Posted: 2:36 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013

My ws is the same way. I can never go deeper than kids or the weather. He starts squirming and getting annoyed. He tells me he loves me everyday...I asked him what he loves about me...he looked like a 6th grader getting called on in class...I don't know um just because I do..why do you ask stuff like this......that's what I get

BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5347 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest

trumanshow
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Member # 25624

Posted: 12:53 PM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013

Read somewhere the #1 predictor of divorce is....Conflict Avoidance

Your ex wanting to be friends is like asking a kidnapper to stay in touch when they let you go.

The type of fierce loyalty that I possess made me incapable of comprehending the level of disloyalty that he possessed

Posts: 1764 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: Charlotte, NC

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