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My fiancé grew up in a family that avoided conflict. Needless to say we very seldom talk about his A.
Any tips in how to deal with this type of personality trait ?

All i can offer is finding a place outside of the house. Our mc recommended the park.

Good luck

I'm really struggling with this as well. My husband almost outright refuses to communicate about anything personal. I can be in tears begging him to just talk to me so we can fix this, and he just says he doesn't know what to say or do. It's really frustrating, but then when I say I can't be with someone who won't try, all of a sudden he says *just* enough to keep me going. Ugh, it really is so frustrating trying to communicate with someone who doesn't know how!

I guess CA and EU are somewhat related so...look under ICR:
Reconciling with the "Emotionally Unavailable"

not much in the way of a solution, but some insight may help...

My ws is the same way. I can never go deeper than kids or the weather. He starts squirming and getting annoyed. He tells me he loves me everyday...I asked him what he loves about me...he looked like a 6th grader getting called on in class...I don't know um just because I do..why do you ask stuff like this......that's what I get

Read somewhere the #1 predictor of divorce is....Conflict Avoidance