My background story is that my husband paid for webcam sex about 3 months after I gave birth to our daughter. I let it go because he had never lied to me and told me the truth about it. But since then I've been having a hard time letting it go, and have noticed some suspicious behavior.
After I found messages in his spam folder (that had been read), I confronted him thinking it was from the webcam site. He insisted it was just spam, and I believed him, but then he changed his password.
Tonight, I confronted him for the second time about money I've found hidden in his closet (this time over $1,000). I know realize he lied to my face in the past when I'd ask him where all that money went. He feels he was justified to keep it somewhere safe so we didn't spend it (the men in his family always do keep a stash of money around, sort of tradition).
But now I know he can look me in the eye and lie to me, so I'm having a really hard time trusting him with everything else. He stands by his statement that he only paid for webcam once. He had never given me a reason to doubt him before, but now he has.
After I let him know that he's proven himself untrustworthy, his first response was "fine don't trust me then". With time it changed to, "I see where you're coming from but I don't know how to fix it." When I asked about changing his password he said it was because I was snooping and he knew I would get mad whenever he got spam.
I just don't know what to make of all this. Thoughts?