Topic: Thoughts to share at a milestone
Member # 14866
| Posted: 11:54 PM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013|
*Posting as a member*
Wow my 45,000 post. I am not sure all of what I've said over the years. But I do know that because of the magic of this site that I've continued to post.
It is the because of the worst that we've all sought out help and have found this place. When infidelity hit me I felt so helpless, so isolated. My now XWW had me believing that it was me and I actually believed her. It wasn't until I found SI that I realized that what I was experiencing seemed to be quite common and there were many members here to help. This insight helped me cut away my fog to see my situation clearly. I now had steps to take and things to put into action. My now XWW never bought into things and needed to file before I lost myself. I was a lurker for months before ever joining and was learning to much yet I was fearful of putting my story out there. My self esteem had been crushed. Lucky for me I was greeted with kindness and compassion. I know if there had been 2x4s thrown out quickly I would have run for the hills.
In my early times here I was able to gain confidence, set a direction, learn to laugh again, and to make others laugh again. I did enjoy the many times that Threnody would be cursing me for sprewing out her coffee onto her keyboard. The members here have become my extended family. I've been blessed to have had your help and guidance over the years. You've shared in my difficulties in my divorce and as well as the trials with my older daughter. You've celebrated my kids successes as well as my own. You've been my Christmas spirit through the card exchange plus glitter. Although I've met many through the get togethers over the years there are many more I haven't met right here that help me on. I am not sure that I could go anywhere now that there wasn't an SIer nearby. SI has made the world smaller and friendlier to me.
There is a magic here on SI. This magic is what makes this place helpful, caring, and friendly. The concept of paying things forward. Older members sticking around to help newer members. Newer members quickly becoming comfortable to help out too. Taking the time to respond and letting someone know they've been heard is powerful and comforting to a poster. To get even simple responses such as just giving virtual hugs means so much to so many. Over the years I've learned that what I thought were my wisest posts didn't impact people as much as the small ordinary sounding ones that I've never suspected. So I ask as a favor that you continue to pay things forward. Think twice about the post you're about to delete because you think it's value isn't up the what the other replies have . You don't know when a post will move someone and that someone might not be the thread starter.
I'll end by thanking everyone for the postings you've made and the support you've given. You are the magic that makes SI special. Thank you MH and DS for this site. You've changed my life along with so many others in a positive way. Thanks to the rest of the staff here that give their time to protect this site. Thanks to my SI family that keeps propping people up.
Continue the magic.
Posts: 54405 | Registered: Jun 2007
Member # 36976
| Posted: 12:14 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013|
Congrats! Keep posting!
Posts: 870 | Registered: Sep 2012
Member # 31349
| Posted: 12:31 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013|
Thanks to YOU, Moo. I hear time and again how your compassion steered individuals and couples into healthier waters.
We're better for having you in our lives.
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
Posts: 29076 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Member # 34602
| Posted: 12:46 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013|
Ugh...I think I have something in my eye...won't stop tearing.
You summed up SI in your post. We are not alone. There are people that care. There are people who want to help for no other reason than to help. What a great place SI is, and you help make it that way, Moo.
WH: 36 TimeToManUp
Married: 14 years, together 19 years
3 daughters: 12, 8, 5, and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
Confronted him: 12/22/2011
This is the most difficult thing I've ever done.
Posts: 1840 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
Member # 30369
| Posted: 12:53 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013|
You are awesome, Moo. I've found inspiration in so many of your posts throughout the last couple of years that I have been here. I think the thing that I have found most inspiring about you is your compassion for others, as well as your sense of humor. I also feel that you are not just here for SI as a whole, but for every individual member of SI. Thank you so much for all you have done. Thank you for sharing your story as well. And thank you for providing the biggest medicine for all of us here, which is hope.
Cheers on 45K posts. That is amazing!!!!
Posts: 30659 | Registered: Dec 2010
Member # 34888
| Posted: 1:16 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013|
thank you and to DS & MH and SI}}}}}}}
Posts: 739 | Registered: Feb 2012
Member # 36134
| Posted: 7:03 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013|
Wow Moo, 45,000 posts!!! you talk a lot.
Does this milestone need a celebration pedi?
Thanks for sharing your compassion, wisdom, and humor on these boards.
SI would not be the same without you.
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
Posts: 6708 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
Member # 23875
| Posted: 7:12 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013|
"Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it."
Together 35 years
6-5-06 Day of Reckoning
Familiarity breeds contempt.
Posts: 1090 | Registered: May 2009 | From: swfl
Member # 26970
| Posted: 7:19 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013|
..you have certainly been 'paying it forward'..
holy-moly 45000 is awesome..
..do you ever wish you could put them all in one nice 'leather-bound' edition?? ..or Vol.1, Vol.2, and Vol.3..
..you are a blessing on this site.. thanks.
trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Married 45 yrs (together 49)
18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer.
. died from a brain tumor@57
Posts: 4961 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Ontario Canada
Member # 17484
| Posted: 7:38 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013|
A big man with a big heart.
What's not to like?
This site, and my world and healing would not be the same without you.
Posts: 7269 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
Member # 1558
| Posted: 7:39 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013|
You've been a good friend and advisor on SI for a long time, Moo. I don't suppose we'll ever know how many lives your words have touched, but I do know you're on the side of the angels.
Thank you for your words, both serious and funny. And thank you for the fact that I cannot see a hosta plant without chuckling. Those things are everywhere. I look lunatic.
“If you don't like my opinion of you, you can always improve.” ~ Ashleigh Brilliant
"Great love requires determination." ~ tryingtwo
"Don't try to win over the haters, you're not the jackass whisperer." ~ Brene Brown
Posts: 14329 | Registered: Jun 2003 | From: Middle-of-Diddly, TX
Member # 25001
| Posted: 9:04 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013|
45,000 posts is a huge milestone to reach.
I can't possibly thank you, Moo and everyone on SI enough for all the support that I've received over the years. I found this site a year after my first d-day. I was a mess that year. I posted the same day I joined and was greeted with such kindness. I just hope that I'm of at least a little help to others. That I can help make this horrific journey a little easier for others. We all need that helping hand up every now and then.
Thank you MH and DS for starting this site and to the staff for all their hard work each and every day and to the members for their compassion to complete strangers (and 2x4's as well ). You have each helped to restore my faith in humanity, that there really are good and faithful people still out there.
Me - BS, 40 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS11, DD8
Getting my ducks in a row for divorce... finally (4+ D-Days too many - listed in profile.)
Posts: 6121 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
Member # 33226
| Posted: 9:54 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013|
I will never forget the day/night I first exchanged posts with you. I was so new to all of this - not just infidelity, but the site as well. I couldn't sleep and decided to read every forum on the site.
I eventually made my way down to the last forum, F&G, and thought - people are having fun??? And playing games??? Who can find anything funny right now?
Seemed improbable, but I clicked my way in and poked around a bit. You had started a "Back to School Get to Know You" thread, and invited people to introduce themselves. I hesitantly posted, and was very warmly received by you, oh so gently encouraging me to call you Moo for short.
I kept reading as more posts were added, some were clever, some played very straight, and others were hysterical. Wait - I laughed? I thought that part of me was dead?
And as I kept reading, I realized there were all types of members posting - BS, WS, MH - and they were all (gasp) human. Real people. Not villians and victims - just people.
It may sound ridiculous, but it was a revolution to me and my thinking so soon after dday. And it convinced me that I could still laugh, that there are good people on both sides of this mess, and that I absolutely WOULD survive this mess.
Huge. Revolutionary. And a salvation of sorts.
I feel fortunate to count you as a friend, Moo. And I thank you for all you have given to me and SI over the years.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
Posts: 40247 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 21101
| Posted: 10:04 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013|
Congrats Moo, you are as much a part of SI as the Dr. Phil banners.
You have provided much good wisdom, support, and understanding to many of us along the way.
You also made me smile a few times in the early days when I felt I would never be happy again. Thank you for introducing me to Stupid Picture Friday.
Kids: 18 & 20
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
Posts: 13278 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
Member # 14866
| Posted: 10:28 PM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013|
Thank you everyone. I totally forgot about the hostas (and the rocks) story.
Wow NIK I never knew that. Makes me motivated to kick that off again. It is back to school time.
Posts: 54405 | Registered: Jun 2007
Member # 2
| Posted: 10:33 PM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013|
well, I'm pretty sure you know how much you mean to my and MH. It's been such a pleasure watching you grow and heal into this incredibly loving, patient and caring man. I'm sure it was there all along but may have gotten buried with the hurt you went through.
And thank you for sticking around and sharing your personal feelings, jokes, and love to so many here that count on you and look for you...you truly are an angel on earth
[This message edited by SI Staff at 10:33 PM, August 1st (Thursday)]
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
Posts: 210060 | Registered: May 2002
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