Thanks, Everybody.
Whenever I see papers with our names on them for the divorce, it is a huge trigger. It throws me off kilter for a day or two, no matter what the content. Seeing my name there with "verses" wrecks me.
This is the first of the petitions to go to court, FWIU (from what I understand) and it is regarding custody, as I tried to say in my late-night post.
It is from Perv/Peckerwood's atty and is written like a kid or special need's person. I suspect it could be purposefully done this way, to throw us off, maybe?
I understand the explanations of custody, thank you all.
My consternation is at seeing "physical joint custody" on the papers...this threw me. L did respond and promises there is no way on earth, in heaven or in hell that he will let either child be taken away from me to live, whatever the terminology the other atty tries to sneak in.
I told him I will go to great length to fight and money, though difficult, is not going to stop me, should this come up.
@ Coraline, thank you. The papers were not written by my L, but Perv/Peckerwood's and he's sloppy. He's a bully, which doesn't shock me, because don't bullies often stick together?
@ Nature Girl, at least a few times a week, I think of the things you wrote. It's not even about the cheating part when it comes to my kids, either...my triggers or buttons get pushed because of the abandoning and some things I overheard him say during his visits with our daughter.
The wording that has me upset in the papers is the phrase "joint physical custody". I'm sorry, I was crying when I began the thread and it was late at night.
We do have a "parenting plan" that I am trying hard to stick to, but he is Mr. "No Rules" now. If I complain to my lawyer about the visiting or make any noise about him not sticking to the parenting plan, he gets his lawyer to say I am not cooperating...? L said that this is a scare tactic.
These games I just can't take and it makes so many more problems. Drama follows this man like a wake behind a boat and this was a person known for problem solving and one who could fix anything!
I did get a notice for the first court date and I don't think it's going to be a pretty day for me.
Thanks again, everybody.