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User Topic: Weekend is coming
InTheRabbitHole
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Default  Posted: 8:12 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's a long weekend here and I'm struggling with ideas of things to do. The worst part of being single I ind can be the boredom. Any fun weekend suggestions? What are you getting up to?

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Catwoman
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Default  Posted: 8:25 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When I am facing a weekend alone, I make a date with myself to do something fun. So, I may clean the house, but then "reward" myself with s special trip to an antiques place or an outlet store or somewhere my regular travels do not take me. Or I may splurge on purchasing a book and a nice bottle of wine and read.

It gives me something to look forward to. That way, the self pity doesn't creep in. Try it!

Cat


FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 25 and 22. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
"An erection does not count as personal growth."

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InTheRabbitHole
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Default  Posted: 8:37 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That sounds excellent. I'm thinking about going to a place that has amazing antiques and oddities. But will have to get over the border first.

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Newlease
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Default  Posted: 9:18 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I used to treat myself to a movie I had been wanting to see. Or I would plan a trip to a book store. I could LIVE in Barnes and Noble - books, coffee, pastry --- HEAVEN!

Enjoy your weekend.

NL


Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.

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little turtle
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Default  Posted: 9:27 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When I was single, I made sure to have some type of plans to go somewhere when it was my weekend without the kids. Shopping, hang out with girlfriends, visit someone...anything to ensure that I got out of the house at least once! I also made sure I had a goal or 2 of things I wanted to do at home. I would go through a box of stuff, organize something, or clean a particular room.


Failure is success if we learn from it.

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ISPIFFD
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Default  Posted: 9:46 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Movie, good book, whipping up a new batch of soap, day trip


Me: BW (55)
Him: WH (62)
7/14/11 - Divorced

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Confused1829
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Default  Posted: 2:15 PM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ditto what others are saying!

I try to force myself out of the house and do something I keep saying I want to do but don't. Like, head over to the museum, or try to find a fun new coffee shop with a good book.

Sometimes, scheduling out your day with activities helps and gives you something to look forward to (otherwise I zone out on my couch eating wheat things).

So, go for a run in the morning if it's nice, or try out a groupon deal to get my nails done, etc.

I like Cat's suggestion of getting wine and reading a book at home in the evening. Sometimes the lonely evenings are the hardest part for me. Most my friends are spending QT in with their SO's and I'm reminded that Im' alone.

I'm also trying to take on some contract work and do more writing. Gives me something to do and focus on for me (something that was hard to do when I was with X).


Me: fBW 31
DDays: May 31 2011 & Aug 6 2011. Divorced November 14, 2011 (No Kids)

Posts: 282 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: New York City
phmh
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Default  Posted: 7:22 PM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Movies are a great thing to do alone. Independently owned book stores may have author readings that sound interesting to you.

Look around at your local paper (especially if you have an alternative weekly) and see if there are any concerts or unusual things you might be interested in. I've gone to concerts alone, started talking to other single ladies there and had great nights. There are usually lectures, art exhibits, etc.

Also, just because someone has an SO doesn't mean they don't want to do anything with you. This is something HUGE I had to overcome since XWH was so antisocial and essentially insisted that I spend all my free time with him and without anyone else.

I do a lot of things with my married friends -- sometimes just us ladies, and sometimes there will be 3 or 5 of us (with me the single one.) My BFF told me she really likes it when the three of us go do stuff because she and her husband have been married so long they can get bored with each other but I spice things up :)

Another idea is to check out the local university if you have one. Mine has planetarium shows, drag shows, movies, and tons of other really interesting activities.

I truly believe that there is no excuse for being bored. There are so many events taking place in every medium-sized city -- you just may have to do some work to find them!!!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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hurtbs
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Default  Posted: 6:59 AM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I sometimes "play tourist" in my home town - what would I do if I were a visitor here?

Sometimes I take myself to a move or just go shopping (mostly window) or drive somewhere I never go because it's a bit farther. I go to art shows, gallery openings, walk the beach, etc.


Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid


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