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User Topic: Liar Liar pants on Fire
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Default  Posted: 10:00 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have realized that I am living with a chronic liar.

I know most WS lie about their A's, AP's and anything related to it.

TT truth is in its own way another lie.

My favorite is lies of omission. MY H thinks if he doesn't say it, it's not a lie.

After all this time I figure I am the biggest liar of all. I lied to myself. I told myself that he was working on our M and all was ok. I told myself I would be his priority. Liar. I whispered that our M was better. Liar.

And now my pants are on fire. I have no place left to stuff all his lies to me or my lies to me.


Posts: 828 | Registered: Apr 2010
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Default  Posted: 10:01 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Feel the same!

BS(ME)41 WH(HIM)38
DD 21 and DS 16
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.

"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"

Posts: 2944 | Registered: Aug 2011
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Default  Posted: 10:13 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Stbx thinks that if it doesn't *exist* (text messages, b&w copies of receipts/phone records, etc) that it never happened.
AND as long as at least one thing in his story is correct? Well, to him -- that means that he hasn't lied. So he would spin some tale and throw in that he was wearing a blue shirt (or something equally ridiculous) -- and that made the entire statement true.
I call that the *grain of truth* lie.

Lying, at its most base level, is all about *control*.

If you actually thought that he was being honest with you and giving honest effort to the M, then you did not lie to yourself. You were hopeful and you were willing to extend a bit of trust to a person that didn't deserve it.

However, now that you know that you are dealing with a liar, you'll have to face that and decide how you're going to handle it. Once you *see* something, you can't *unsee* it, and once you reach a realization -- you can't ignore it anymore.

Sorry D2. All of the lies that I was told just about drove me f'n crazy. Life is much better now that there is very limited contact with that shit.

"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.

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