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confused777 posted 8/1/2013 11:41 AM

So he told me last night he will call the counselor and we will go to marriage counseling. I do know about false recovery and so I am 1% optimistic.

One of the things I said 2 nights ago to him was, what would you do if our roles were reversed. He didn't answer me but I hope it got his mind churning.

I am feeling stronger and seeing my power. Now I can see if this is what I want.

Btw, he deleted all the content off his swinger profile but he couldn't figure how to delete the account. The certain are there but his pictures are gone.

confused615 posted 8/1/2013 11:44 AM

Words are words.

Watch his actions.

((((Confused7)))))

TxsT posted 8/1/2013 11:56 AM

Actions do speak louder then words....the biggest thing though is that you will get help. Through that help, and through MC you will slowly figure out if he is worth it or not.

You have taken a great step forward. Listen to your heart. It is hurt but it is not damaged so much that it doesn't know right from wrong.

T

confused615 posted 8/1/2013 12:06 PM

This man needs IC..a lot of IC before going to MC. Going to MC with an unremorseful WS is a BAD idea.

But if you go through with it...then you need to interview the MC alone. Ask her what her view is on infidelity. Ask her how she will treat the two of you. Ask her,in the aftermath of infidelity,what approach she suggests.

MANY MC's are not qualified to counsel couples dealing with infidelity. They encourage rugsweeping or blame the marriage or the BS for the affair. If you get an MC like this..your WH will latch on to it like a baby with a bottle. It will be next to impossible for you to ever get him to understand the depth of his betrayal.

TxsT posted 8/1/2013 12:13 PM

Good point Confused. We did interview our MC extensively, even though we had already figured out we were going to go forward together.

T

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