Me: BS 50
I agree with unfound....use this in a positive way. He knows what you were feeling and you have typed out what you know he was feeling above. Even though it is after the fact have the conversation about the trigger. it is obviously still bothering you and for that reason alone it should be addressed. Your husband will feel awkward but he also felt that way when it happened too. He may have wanted to say something but was afraid to say anything for fear it would upset your further.
Approach your H openly and honestly and maybe start the conversation by saying hey, did you feel as awkward as I did last night during the movie? It made me fell like........ You will not regret this, it will be a doorway to further conversations about other triggers.
When the triggers got so ugly and I finally figured out it was my own sick, twisted mind taking me down those dark paths, finally opened up to my H over something very similar. It was our favorite TV show CSI and the topic was a dead wife of a hubby who had cheated. Talk about reality check. When I was still thinking about it days later, and after some very bad nightmares of OW coming and killing me over and over again, I spoke up. My H had no way of knowing how badly I had been affected and was very thankful I said something. He admitted to feeling horrible as well. Now when something on TV or a movie does that to us we both hug each other and either turn off the TV or snuggle closer knowing we are together and supporting on another through this hell.
[This message edited by TxsT at 3:36 PM, August 1st (Thursday)]
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)
Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!