DD was almost 3 weeks ago, and it's been an emotional roller coaster ever since. My WH immediately initiated NC, but it seems his OW didn't really believe him. She started showing up in random places online...messaging him looking for acknowledgement, messaging his FB friends...he hasn't taken the bait. Her attempts escalated, and before I knew it, I had both her and her adult son emailing ME horrible messages...spilling details about the affair (which I was aware of, since my WH had already fessed up to what she was telling me).
My WH called her BS earlier this week. He took accountability, apologized, and told him he would answer any questions he had...but we also needed him to tell his wife to leave us alone.
Contacting him made the messages worse...so yesterday we filed an Injunction Against Harassment. I don't think she will be bothering us again.
She doesn't get to go through life, holding a dirty little secret over my husband's head. She doesn't get the satisfaction of telling me things she thinks I don't already know.
For the 1st time in 3 weeks, I'm feeling strong and empowered.