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User Topic: I'm tired
LadyQ
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Default  Posted: 7:08 PM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm tired. I'm tired of truck trouble. I'm tired of broken garbage disposals, thermostats and stopped up sinks. I'm tired of having to see the disappointment and sadness in my children's eyes. I'm tired of taking the high road and not saying shitty things about their dad. I'm tired of only being able to say "I'm sorry" when their dickhead father treats them bad instead of telling them how he really is. I'm tired of being alone and lonely. I'm tired of his life going on like I never happened. Like I never mattered. I'm just freakin tired.


Tune out the noise of what others tell you about who you are and work it out for yourself...

Posts: 1650 | Registered: Jul 2011
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 7:11 PM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((hugs)))

My first two thoughts were both out of movies.

"The sun'll come out tomorrow."

and "After all, tomorrow is another day."

I am not usually a walking movie line generator...

I understand LadyQ. It will get better. Then you can look back at how masterfully you handled this time and feel empowered and kick ass fabulous!


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5947 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
abigailadams
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Default  Posted: 8:46 PM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((LadyQ)))

You are tired for good reasons. You are holding up the world for your children. You are doing a great job!

I too want to tell my DD what an asshole her father is and that it isn't her or even me, its him. But one of my very good friends when this whole shit storm started told me that the worst part of his parents divorce was them badmouthing each other. Every time I want to open my mouth and say something bad about stbx, I hear my friend and I stop. I save it for my IC, my mother, one or two really close friends.


Me BS 55
Him WS 53
Married 10 years together 13
DDay October 11, 2012

Posts: 134 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Brooklyn, NY
Sparkles
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Default  Posted: 9:20 PM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((LadyQ)))

I'm with you. Tired of doing everything, all the time. No break from the kids or any other responsibility. Sometimes when I really want to tell him what I think and I can't, I write it all in an email and send it off to one of my friends.

The "high" road feels pretty steep sometimes.

[This message edited by Sparkles at 9:20 PM, August 1st (Thursday)]


Posts: 138 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: NW
Coraline
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Default  Posted: 9:22 PM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so, so sorry. ((LadyQ))


Me: BW, 34 Him: WH, 35
3 Kids: 9, 3, and 1
Decree nisi will become absolute in January. We are DONE.

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Griefstricken25
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Default  Posted: 9:23 PM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((LadyQ))))

It's such a hard place to be and I know what you're feeling. You are an amazing mama and your kids know it.

Tomorrow is a new day. It sounds cliche, but sometimes it amazes me how a new day can bring fresh hope and perspective.


Me!
3 amazing kidlets
To WXH "Now you're just somebody that I used to know." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d9NF2edxy-M
D-day and separation - June, 2009
Divorced - December, 2011

Posts: 2529 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: A better place
dmari
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Default  Posted: 10:58 PM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh LadyQ ~ wish I could give you a real hug and take you out to coffee. I am so sorry you are rightfully tired. Exhausted. Spent. YOU MATTER. Say it over and over again. YOU MATTER. I pray that tomorrow is a brighter day.


Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

Posts: 2340 | Registered: Oct 2012
wannabenormal
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Default  Posted: 11:25 PM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think most of us solely single/or mostly single "main" parents feel this way at one point or another.

It IS exhausting and it's damn for sure not any easier when the walk-away parent's life seems easy-breezy. I swear sometimes I have a black cloud hovering over me while XH and wifetress travel through life sliding on rainbows and riding unicorns, ya know?! Like W.T.F.?! LOL!

But I do try to take it all one step at a time. I do realize life isn't truly bad and the hiccups I encounter are actually usually kinda funny...BUT it's still hard sometimes when it seems like easy street for others. I get that.

I do know the high road is the right path, even though it's often the hardest, loneliest and least fun one to take...but in 'the end'...you'll be happy you did it.



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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 11:49 PM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Me too, Honey. ((((HUGS))))

It all just sucks and is so unfair.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 10154 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
katiesmom
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Default  Posted: 10:47 AM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((LadyQ)))
So am I. It will get better someday. It has to, right?

Posts: 74 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Kentucky
laney57
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Default  Posted: 11:52 AM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Big hugs coming your way LadyQ... You will reap the benefits, we all will.


Update 09/28/14
Me - BS, 44
Him - WH, 46
Married - 23 years
D-Day - 05/12/2012
Trying to find me still
Gotta do this, but I'm broken - headed for divorce - 02/20
Hell if I know - 02/24
Divorcing 09/28/14

Posts: 230 | Registered: May 2012 | From: KY
MyReturn2Me
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Default  Posted: 11:36 PM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((BIG HUGS)))

My therapist told me, just yesterday, that this was normal and it will pass.

I'm tired right along with you.


Me: BS 51 and Freaking AWESOME!
Him: Who the fuck cares........

Posts: 259 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Puget Sound
tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 11:44 PM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm tired too. Parallel parenting with a selfish manchild is exhausting.

(((LadyQ)))


FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

Posts: 3659 | Registered: Oct 2011
tesla
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Default  Posted: 8:33 AM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Me too. Tired of doing the jobs of 2 people. Tired of dealing with ex-shat's extreme idiocy.
Sigh.
We all need a spa day.
((((LadyQ))))


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4835 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
Bluebird26
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Default  Posted: 2:10 AM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm tired too. Parallel parenting with a selfish manchild is exhausting.
.

Exactly that.


"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

Posts: 1409 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
peridot
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Default  Posted: 2:22 AM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hear you! I get that way sometimes. It's been even harder now that I never get a break. I'm mom and dad now.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


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missmydogs
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Default  Posted: 11:25 PM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Me too. Hugs.


Me 36
DS 16
DD 4

Divorced!

I've made a huge mistake - GOB


Posts: 71 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: missmydogs
LadyQ
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Default  Posted: 12:55 PM, August 5th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks so much for the support. I feel better was just having one of those days ( more like weeks).

I'm gonna make it! At least those down moments are getting fewer and farther apart...

Big hugs to all of us who are struggling...


Tune out the noise of what others tell you about who you are and work it out for yourself...

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