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fraeuken posted 8/1/2013 20:56 PM

It was DDs 16th birthday today and I was devastated to not be with her. This is the first time I am not with my child in all these years. No special dinner today, no decorated birthday table, no nice cake, no togetherness.

Last night SO stayed at my place. And at some point in the evening I just lost it thinking about DD16 and all the loss we have experienced. I excused myself and went to the bedroom and just sat on the floor and sobbed.

He eventually knocked on the door and asked if he could come in. I told him yes. He sat on the floor next to me and hugged me. I just started to sob more. He just sat there and held me tight. I cried myself to sleep. At some point I felt that he lifted me on the bed and covered me. I heard him leave and then he came back with a warm washcloths, washed my face, kissed me and went to sleep on the couch.

I am love with this man. With all the misery, I felt safe and loved like I never felt in my marriage.

Chrysalis123 posted 8/1/2013 21:13 PM

Oh my goodness. I am so sorry for your pain, but blown away by his response.

I am so happy you found such a wonderful man.

[This message edited by Chrysalis123 at 9:14 PM, August 1st (Thursday)]

caregiver9000 posted 8/1/2013 21:55 PM

That is touching in so many ways.


Griefstricken25 posted 8/1/2013 22:06 PM

Wow. What a beautiful picture of what a man should be.


wildbananas posted 8/1/2013 22:37 PM


fraeuken posted 8/2/2013 00:16 AM

Talked to my girl today and feeling much better.

It was the gesture of washing my face which certainly was not a pretty sight that really made me stop and think. No man has ever done that for me. It was such a simple gesture but it was so very powerful to me.

Tonight we met up at church for a brief prayer meeting and be offered up a very eloquent, heart felt prayer which I know was partially directed at me. After he took me out to dinner and we just talked about our day and books and movies.

I have always given more than I received in my relationships. It is very difficult for me to accept his kindness at times. I feel like I got tenfold back what I lost with the end of my marriage.

Bebba1171 posted 8/2/2013 00:30 AM

wow - what an impressive man. Feel pretty inadequate compared to him!

Happy for you Frau.

Currently in San Diego with my son visiting my little sister and playing a lot of golf.

Head back to the sticks of Kentucky tomorrow.

You live in an awesome state!

Bluebird26 posted 8/2/2013 02:30 AM

Wow that is so nice.

Hope you are feeling better today.

Sissi12 posted 8/2/2013 02:36 AM

So nice- you deserve it. Never stop believing.

jo2love posted 8/2/2013 08:31 AM


He sounds like a wonderful person.

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