So he is asking, but there is no court order he can enforce. Will he have to take me to court for it? if anything, now I out earn him.
thanks for any advice!
Under the situation you describe, it sounds like he has custody of the only "minor" child. How do you split support of the college children? Do you support them at all? does he?
The bottom line is that it will take time and effort on his part. He cannot just call you up and say "Hey, I want CS now."
If it appears that he is going to make the effort then it would be in your best interest to retain a L. Start pulling together documentation now so you can show that you have supported the kids thru the years also. That will include tax document for the since 2008 (or earlier if you can find them) and also include any support you provide for the college age kids.
We have just been paying for the ones that lived at our respective houses after high school. I am hesitant to open that can of worms, because while I have paid for some tuition and books, he has paid for jail fines and large medical fees for the ones that live with him. It's either equal, or I'm paying less there.
I guess I'm wondering if I should just pay it, or wait for the court to say I do.
I don't want to pay him, feels like a reward, even though I know it's not.
thank you for your reply!
It's a tough one. On the one hand, if you know he's struggling to raise the last one financially, and you are able to help, maybe you should. OTOH, if helping the two you had through college is strapping you..
I guess it depends on how your papers were written up. Was it you are responsible for x and y, and he's responsible for v and w, period?
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
Well, my papers say he pays CS for each kid through one degree of college/university
Wow - really? So if they screw around and take 10 years to finish one degree, he has to pay the entire time?
My state changed the requirements. Here is it CS through age 18 or HS graduation, whichever is latter.
Anyway, I would 'try' to verbally play the card that you are both still supporting them via college and see if he challenges you on that or what sort of feedback you get?
My opinion is that you should think carefully about what you would want if the shoe were on the other foot. If your Ex made more than you, if the only minor child was living with you, etc.
I have a good friend, male, who was never married to the mother of his child. They have no divorce agreement, and she never filed any kind of support order. On his own volition he looked up the child support formula in his state and started sending her checks for the appropriate amount. I hope my sons turn out to be that kind of man.
It's for a reasonable time frame to complete one degree, because a home must be maintained for them during this time.
It's the first degree. If one of my children decide to go to medical school, no, CS will stop and he has no legal obligation to help. While they take their first 4 year degree, yes, he will continue to pay.
My son's current plan is to do 2 years of college to get a diploma, then he desperately wants to go to university. I have spoken to my xh, and if my son does this, he will pay for 6 years.
I'll be "ok" after the first 4 years, once my daughter goes to university/college too...I need the full CS to stay in this house until DD has finished high school...then I will move in a flash. I'm thrilled the papers were written up like that; it works for me to let my DD finish school where she wants to be.
Edited because my second child in my DD, not my DS who I kept referring to as she.
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