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♀ 29987
Member # 29987
Frustrated  Posted: 11:54 PM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was looking through some paperwork today and found a receipt for a necklace that my H bought me. I love the necklace, but never really thought about when he gave it to me. Well, according to the receipt, he bought it for me for the anniversary we celebrated in the middle of his A. Our daughter always remarks about the necklace when I wear it because she went with "Daddy" to help pick it out for me. She always tells this story so fondly and sweetly.
Don't I have a different spin on this lovely tale now? So my lying, cheating husband took our sweet daughter shopping to buy me an anniversary gift. Perhaps he couldn't figure out what I liked. Or perhaps he needed to justify buying me a gift by involving our daughter.
At any rate, it is just a horrible reminder of the depraved individual that he is. I can't even try to rationalize or explain his behavior anymore. What kind of sick fuck is he? I don't really believe that he is NOT that person. i really believe that whatever mindset it took to do all of this is still in there. And maybe he never will cheat again, but isn't this a true measure of a man?

Ok. I feel better. But damn, I did love that necklace.

Me- BS 43
Him- FWH 49

Woke up late today and I still feel the sting of the pain
But I brushed my teeth anyway
I got dressed through the mess and put a smile on my face
I got a little bit stronger...

D-day: June 14, 2010

Posts: 200 | Registered: Oct 2010 | From: New Jersey
♀ 34262
Member # 34262
Default  Posted: 12:12 AM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Save it and give it back to your daughter at a later time when it won't trigger you. FWS bought me some really nice jewelry for my birthday just two months before the affair started. I haven't worn it since d-day. Don't know if I ever will again.

Me: BS 48
Her: FWS 51 (both family med MDs; together 21 years)
OW: who cares (PhD)
Dday: 10/11: 11/11 TT for months; NC 8/12
"band aids don't fix bullet holes" Taylor Swift
I NEVER mind medical ???

Posts: 3006 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Here
♀ 33247
Member # 33247
Default  Posted: 12:14 AM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My husband gave me a beautiful ring, which now belongs to my DD. I couldn't look at it without thinking of how he was hurting me when he bought it. It doesn't even matter that he is remorseful and doing just about all he can to R...((dab))

Me: BS
Dday: June 2011

Courage is not having the strength to go on; it is going on when you don't have the strength.

--Theodore Roosevelt

Posts: 1359 | Registered: Aug 2011
♀ 38399
Member # 38399
Default  Posted: 12:28 AM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My husband bought me a diamond heart necklace when I was pregnant with my youngest daughter because he thought I was sad. Now I know it was because he was screwing whores and felt guilty.

Me BS: 42
WH: 44
DDay- April 17, 2013
Married 22 years
3 children: 18, 15 & 9

Posts: 160 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: 1devastedmom
♀ 35215
Member # 35215
Default  Posted: 12:40 AM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh I am so sorry (((dab110))). Mine was a Valentine's gift during their A. I thought it was strange because he rarely bought me jewelry. I will never wear it again. My WH knows this too.

BS/FWS (me):43 Madhatter
WS/BS:46 Serial Cheater
Together 20 years, Married 15
DD(13) DS(10)
DDay(s) Too many to count
False R 7/11/14 Same OW2
"Never seek validation from those who are unworthy."

Posts: 4086 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California
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