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User Topic: Stupid thing that frustrates me
♀ 36434
Member # 36434
Default  Posted: 1:48 AM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Feel free to be annoyed by me complaining about is, but it is really troublesome. We live in Hawaii for STBX's job (military). I'm from the Midwest, so the time there is 5 hours ahead. I like Hawaii. I really do. It's gorgeous. However, every time my kids get to bed and I need to talk something out with my family, they're all asleep. Have you ever tried to stay out of earshot of two children and watch a 1yo (the baby has no idea what I'm talking about) while having a serious conversation? It sucks ass and rarely works. But I can't do it while the kids are in bed, because everyone is asleep. Stupid, but makes my life just that much harder.

Me: BW, 34 Him: WH, 35
3 Kids: 9, 3, and 1
Decree nisi will become absolute in January. We are DONE.

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♀ 39801
Member # 39801
Default  Posted: 6:19 AM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That has got to be very hard on you. I can't imagine not being able to reach someone when I really need to talk.
I hope you can find a way around this. Would it be possible to hire a babysitter for an hour or 2 a week or so?
Sending you hugs.

I cannot be responsible for another's personal growth.
DDay#1 of a "cheatillion" 4/1/13
Divorce final 11/04/13

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♀ 32847
Member # 32847
Default  Posted: 6:55 AM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My kids are older, so this isn't so much of an issue. Can you step outside? If I need to talk about something on the phone that I don't need my children to hear, I usually go sit on the deck. Maybe that would help?

Tune out the noise of what others tell you about who you are and work it out for yourself...

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♀ 29183
Member # 29183
Default  Posted: 8:52 AM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When i lived overseas, this was an issue for me, too. How about waking up before the kids are up for the day?

3 amazing kidlets
To WXH "Now you're just somebody that I used to know."
D-day and separation - June, 2009
Divorced - December, 2011

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