I will say though, you are your children's parent. YOU know what's best for them. Please don't think that because counselors have said to allow the kids to play together, that it's what's best. Children are very intuitive. They will eventually sense the tension. And honestly, this woman isn't a good influence. She's done some bad things, and keeping the kids away from her and her family may be the smartest thing.
Your children will be fine. There are other kids in towns to play with. Kiddos don't need to know the truth...make an excuse, come up with something, just don't keep doing this to you, or them.
You need some peace, and Mom DOES matter.
Hugs to you for having to go through this...
me (WW/BS): 48
4 kiddos in mid 20's
“Relax, everything’s out of control” – Adi Da Samraj
Moms do have to make sacrifices for their kids - no matter what. Sounds like they are young kids. Sounds like you and your WH are doing alright. This is a childhood trauma that you can save them from.
I am so sorry for your situation.
But I SOOOO respect your 'practicing acceptance'. I respect your patience with the new job at the new place.
Lean on your husband - if that is workable in your situation. Make it a thing that YOU and HE share. You are being the better person - sounds like you always have been. No shame in that.
But that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt.
I am sending BIG HUGS your way! Hang in there!
I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy
ugh. This really sucks. I'm sorry for the pain this must cause you.
I disagree with your psychologist, though i am far from qualified in that area. Infidelity and those rotton ripples in the pond? We know all too well, no need for a degree for this one
Kids dont need to know the story, no, but that doesnt mean you couldnt maybe curtail some of the activities so you dont have to deal with see the ow on a continuous basis.
Your mental health as a mom most definitely matters!! Healthy moms make for healthy kids.
It sounds as if its possible for you to develop a strategic plan to counteract this with your h, so that the whole family would benefit.
I hate to admit it, but i hope for the karma bus too