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risingfromashes posted 8/2/2013 07:32 AM

The moving truck arrives tomorrow morning. I keep packing, making trips to the new house with the car full of stuff, throwing stuff out, etc.

But I think the "stuff" is growing! The more I pack the more I find!

I know the movers will pack whatever I don't but what should I prioritize?
I moved in here in 1989 from an apt. Really this is my first move.

I feel completely overwhelmed.

hurtbs posted 8/2/2013 07:37 AM

Anything that you don't use - trash or donate. Clothes - cull your closet.

sadcat posted 8/2/2013 08:36 AM

In the same boat (or moving truck!) here. I recommend packing anything that you either want to keep private or that you would be devastated to lose. That way you have a certain amount of control over those objects.

I hear you on the multiplying stuff. Where the hell was it all hiding?

Newlease posted 8/2/2013 09:13 AM

I have moved 3 times since my D and now am getting ready to move again. I have really looked at the stuff I keep dragging around and think "why?"

Really most of it is just - stuff. It's not important.

Getting rid of it has been very liberating.

Sending strength and peace.

NL

nutmegkitty posted 8/2/2013 09:15 AM

Do you have a box with everything you will need right away? Stuff like phone chargers, sheets for your bed, ipad, computer, etc? I packed a "last on first off" box and it was very helpful to have those things right where I needed them.
It's going to be a long day for you, but it's going to be fine. You can do it. When the guys loaded and unloaded my truck it was POURING and cold. But you are going to have a beautiful day!

Stop on the way and pick yourself up a bottle of chardonnay to enjoy. Oh, and put a corkscrew and wine glass in you LO/FO box

Newlease posted 8/2/2013 09:16 AM

Look at the stuff this way:

What do I NEED? The things you use in everyday life.

What brings me joy? This category means things that you see every day in your space that make you happy - not stuff packed away in the attic that you only look at when you move.

NL

nowiknow23 posted 8/2/2013 09:54 AM

Aw, rising - you are so close!

I remember that clown car stage, when it seemed the stuff would never stop growing.

The critical and precious stuff should come with you in your car. Ditto for irreplaceables - photos, personal treasures, heirlooms, and sanity savers, whatever they may be (for me, it was my sewing machine and fabric stash).

Think and pack in context of where you are going, not where you've been. I knew I could live in chaos for months so long as I had somewhere to sleep, my kitchen was functional, and my quilt room/office was set up. Those spaces were my first priority. The VERY first things to go in the house were the beds. Assembled, made up with sheets, and ready to go.

Then I moved in the kitchen stuff (terribly important for feeding friends who were helping with the move, too).

Then quilt/office stuff.

All furniture and big items into the proper rooms, and then boxes were placed in the garage, which I used as a staging area. That way, I could take my time in unpacking, and not have to trip around piles of boxes in every room in the house for months on end.

If you have a clear idea of what will be the highest priority for your new set up, you can direct the packing toward that end.

Sending you TONS of strength and move mojo, honey.

Survivor3512 posted 8/2/2013 11:01 AM

Get rid of as much as possible, lol! Really, though, I did that when I moved and I love having a clutter free home now. It's awesome!