On DDay in June, I sent a brief Facebook message to Coworker #2 basically letting her know that I saw the texts she sent to WH and what I thought of her, and that is why I was defriending her on FB. At that time she sent me a contrite reply apologizing. Since then, however, she has approached WH at work a couple of times, once to offer him a hug and recently to tell him that she misses their friendship and wants to still be friends with him. (I know this because WH told me, and he says that he declined both offers.)
I know that she has never worked the hours that WH works and probably does not know many people on that shift. I would like to go have lunch with him mostly to prevent her from inviting herself to sit down and eat with WH at lunch on her first day on that shift. (I don't think WH would initiate that, but I also don't think he would get up and walk away from the table if she did so.) I have no intention of causing a scene, but I am also not going to hesitate to tell that girl to get up and move if she had the gall to approach the two of us during lunch.
The other potentially awkward situation is that Coworker #1 DOES work the same hours that WH does. I have never met or spoken to her, so if I did run into her that would be the first time. She has apparently found herself a serious boyfriend who she is infatuated with (according to WH) so I'm not too worried about her at the moment, but I'm not sure what I'd say to her if I ran into her. Probably nothing.
So my question is, what do you all think? Is going to WH's work to have lunch with him a good idea or not? (Just FYI, it is not unusual at his workplace for employee's spouses to visit during their meal breaks, so my presence would not seem generally inappropriate.) I know that NC is generally the recommended course of action on this forum, but since WH doesn't have the option of strict NC I feel like inserting myself into that environment is maybe not a bad thing to do.
I'm going to take it on face value that the job situation is difficult. Definitely go on Monday and chuck in a snide comment to this bitch as well.
YOU are the wife here, and go in there, stare her down and say something repulsive. I would say "looks like you are too _____ to find your own man, too bad just go play with your vibrator"
Show both! Of them that you are not to be fucked with. And WH better pull up his socks and find a new job!
Jeesh so cranky for you!
I really don't know what I would say to Coworker #2.
WH's text conversation with her that I found was VERY graphic with disgusting pics she sent him of herself. There really isn't much to say to her except GO AWAY YOU NASTY DIRTY WHORE.
I really wish WH could just quit, but financially we couldn't do it. Without going into details, he'd never make close to the money he is making now if he went somewhere else. We have one child going off to college soon, and I am not sacrificing our ability to educate our son because my WH is an idiot.
I would be very angry about that.
He warned them.
Group conversation..he just casually mentioned that his wife was coming to lunch that day?
Chances are...he warned them..no group involved.
Red flag. This is a red flag. Im not saying he is still involved with either of them..but it certainly seems to indicate he is talking to them..one on one..and for some reason,doesn't want you to come face to face with them. Could be because he's worried you will say something to one of them(first,it's your right to do so,and second,he's telling you he doesn't have much faith in you being able to control yourself..a bit of an insult..considering..). Or is could be because he's afraid one of them will tell you something you don't know,if there's a confrontation.
Yes..he is protecting someone..
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
Yes..he is protecting someone..
Yes, this is how I feel about it. We had a big fight about it last night. Lots of the same old BS manipulation - first he was just excited to see me so he just had to tell his buddies who were sitting there, and refused to address the fact that I had asked him to not tell the OWs. Then he got a big attitude, saying, "I thought you were coming to see ME? What, were you just hoping to cause problems?" I pretty much laid in to him after that - who the F$&% does he think he is giving ME an attitude about ANY of this shit?!?!? And I told him, even if I had been hoping to see them, SO WHAT?? Is it unreasonable to want the whores who are trying to fuck my husband to at least look me in the face?!?!? Ugh, I am sooooo pissed.
[This message edited by MylarPineapples at 6:38 AM, August 6th (Tuesday)]
and after I left I asked him if he told them I was coming. He says he did mention it, but in the context of a group conversation that was going on.
Holy-catz....so he is having general conversations with his howorkers?