Topic: My Best Friend
Member # 30493
| Posted: 12:06 AM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013|
I am laying in bed listening to my dog snore a little. Tonight is my last night ever sleeping next to him. I have to put him to sleep in the morning. For the past month, he has been suffering from anemia. The vets do not know what is causing it, but it has cost $1,200 to keep him alive this past month. He has had two blood transfusions and requires seven pills a day. The steroids that he has been given have made him diabetic. He now receives two insulin shots a day. None of it has worked, as he is still not producing his own red blood cells. His body is giving out on him.
Two weeks after I found out about the A, I moved out. My XWW showed no regret and never looked back. I had no bedroom furniture for the first three months, so me and my Jack Russell slept on my only couch every night. Him on top of me.
When I would come home from work, he would be there to greet me everyday. When I would sit up at night crying because I missed my wife and my kids, he would lick me. He was worried about me. He let me lean on him, cry, and complain. He listened to every word.
I am going to miss him. My kids are going to miss him. He is such an amazing family member. I feel guilty, but I can not do any more for him.
"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: it goes on" - Robert Frost
Posts: 226 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: FL
Member # 22722
| Posted: 12:13 AM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013|
it is one of the greatest kindnesses you can do for your friend, to let him go gently.
Peace to you both
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
Posts: 2059 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: California
Member # 40096
| Posted: 12:38 AM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013|
Do not feel guilty, you have done all you can.
I just went through the same thing July 15th. She was my comfort, always knew when I was feeling down. She would nuzzle me try cheer me. She was the only one I talked with about my WH. It is soooo hard without her, but it had to be done. Remember the happy times and know you are doing what is best for him.. Ever heard of Rainbow Bridge?? check it out it is comforting...Remember he knows how much you love him and will wait until you meet again!! It is so hard to lose a special companion. Condolences to you and your children.
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Posts: 3 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: New England
Member # 16024
| Posted: 8:45 AM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013|
That is one of the toughest and most selfless things we can do as pet owners.
I'm sorry for the loss of your beloved friend.
“Empathy has no script. There is no right way or wrong way to do it. It’s simply listening, holding space, withholding judgment, emotionally connecting, and communicating that incredibly healing message of “you’re not alone.” ~ Brene Brown
Posts: 54906 | Registered: Sep 2007
Member # 14003
| Posted: 10:19 AM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013|
I'm very sorry. I know how difficult it can be, but this is truly a loving thing you are doing for your best friend.
A wise woman once said "fuck this shit" and she lived happily ever after.
Posts: 16049 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Houston
Member # 27539
| Posted: 10:54 AM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013|
I've just gone through this twice in the past 4 months. First time I waited until it was too late and I felt so bad. The next time I almost feel like I did it too early because I was just sooooo afraid of her suffering when I wasn't around like her sister did. They were both at least 15yrs a HUGE part of my life. Like yours, they helped me through all the craziness and gave me a reason to function when my kids were not with me. They kept me going. Now I come home for the first time in 15 yrs to a empty house. Actually, the first time ever.
Dog Heaven was a wonderfully sweet book that I read w both of my kids. And I still cry.
Me - 45
2 kids, 12 and 14
D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later
Posts: 1590 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: MD
Member # 36711
| Posted: 11:04 AM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013|
Oh this is heartbreaking. Hug your friend close.
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.
Posts: 1292 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
Member # 6850
| Posted: 11:12 AM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013|
I am so sorry that you have to go through this...but as others have said part of being a good pet owner is knowing when it is time to let them go peacefully and not suffer any more.....
Maybe in time you will be ready to have another dog....in the meantime remember all the good times and do what is right for your dog....he's crossing the "rainbow bridge" to run and play with other dogs, free of pain and suffering.....HUGS
You can't reach for anything new if your hands are still full of yesterday's junk.......Louise Smith
Posts: 4877 | Registered: Apr 2005 | From: Ontario
Member # 31528
| Posted: 11:59 AM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013|
(((Lost & Doggie)))
I am so sorry.
Posts: 49465 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 15906
| Posted: 12:12 PM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013|
I'm so sorry for the loss of your fur baby. I had a Jack too. They are wonderful dogs.
I went through something similar with mine last year and we couldn't pinpoint what it was for 8 months. When we finally figured it out, I learned it was a fatal disease. I had to make the hard decision. He was just shy of 6 years old and he was the dog I went through the divorce mess with. I understand that pain.
I had him cremated and he sits on my mantle with his ceramic paw print of that day so he's here with me always.
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Posts: 1414 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: PNW country
Member # 25341
| Posted: 12:14 PM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013|
Me (BS), Him (WH): mid-50's
3 DS: 23, 23, 19
M: 28 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 33
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen
Posts: 6021 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
Member # 22870
| Posted: 12:16 PM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013|
I'm so sorry. ((Lost and pup))
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
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Posts: 9094 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
Member # 26531
| Posted: 12:36 PM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013|
I am so sorry for the loss of your best buddy...
Please take comfort in the fact that you did everything you could for him and are doing what is best for him now.
Me: BSO - 48
Him: FWSO - 71
DS - 15
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
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Posts: 25864 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
Member # 31468
| Posted: 3:08 PM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013|
I'm so sorry LandG
But you've done all you can do, and not letting your best friend suffer is the right choice. ((LandG))
Status: D 2011
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling
Posts: 5272 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 34262
| Posted: 3:24 PM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013|
So very sorry. Hugs!
Me: BS 47
Her: FWS 50 (both family med MDs; together 20 years)
OW: who cares (PhD)
Dday: 10/11: 11/11 TT for months; NC 8/12
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Posts: 2995 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Here
Member # 36853
| Posted: 4:13 PM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013|
I'm so sorry LandG.
Prayers and hugs.
fWW 40s, BH 40s
D-day 27 Aug 2012. Kids 25, 17, 13. 2 dogs.
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Posts: 1799 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Deep South, USA
Member # 20547
| Posted: 6:04 PM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013|
I am so, so sorry.
DDay 6/07 (immediately separated)
His OC born 2008/Adopted 2014
My Affair/OC: 2015
Status: trying to pick up the pieces.
Posts: 2579 | Registered: Aug 2008
Member # 9772
| Posted: 8:19 PM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013|
((Lost & His Best Friend))
You shouldn't feel guilty, but I know it's easier said than done.
"Put the cuckoo back in the clock baby" - Four Brothers
Posts: 912 | Registered: Feb 2006
|Sad in AZ|
Member # 24239
| Posted: 7:04 AM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013|
What you are doing is an act of love, and he knows that you love him. (((((LostandGuilty)))))
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-62
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
Posts: 24914 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Arizona
Member # 16305
| Posted: 7:20 PM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013|
((Lost)). Youre truly blessed to have such a good friend. ((Doggie))
Time to be my own bff.
Posts: 9311 | Registered: Sep 2007 | From: NJ
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