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User Topic: My Best Friend
LostandGuilty
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Default  Posted: 12:06 AM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am laying in bed listening to my dog snore a little. Tonight is my last night ever sleeping next to him. I have to put him to sleep in the morning. For the past month, he has been suffering from anemia. The vets do not know what is causing it, but it has cost $1,200 to keep him alive this past month. He has had two blood transfusions and requires seven pills a day. The steroids that he has been given have made him diabetic. He now receives two insulin shots a day. None of it has worked, as he is still not producing his own red blood cells. His body is giving out on him.

Two weeks after I found out about the A, I moved out. My XWW showed no regret and never looked back. I had no bedroom furniture for the first three months, so me and my Jack Russell slept on my only couch every night. Him on top of me.

When I would come home from work, he would be there to greet me everyday. When I would sit up at night crying because I missed my wife and my kids, he would lick me. He was worried about me. He let me lean on him, cry, and complain. He listened to every word.

I am going to miss him. My kids are going to miss him. He is such an amazing family member. I feel guilty, but I can not do any more for him.


"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: it goes on" - Robert Frost

BH (35)
DS (15)
DD (13)


Posts: 224 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: FL
heartbroken_kk
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Member # 22722
Default  Posted: 12:13 AM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((LostandGuilty)))))
(((((BestFriend)))))

it is one of the greatest kindnesses you can do for your friend, to let him go gently.

Peace to you both


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


Posts: 1234 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: California
icantakeit
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Member # 40096
Default  Posted: 12:38 AM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lostandguilty,
Do not feel guilty, you have done all you can.
I just went through the same thing July 15th. She was my comfort, always knew when I was feeling down. She would nuzzle me try cheer me. She was the only one I talked with about my WH. It is soooo hard without her, but it had to be done. Remember the happy times and know you are doing what is best for him.. Ever heard of Rainbow Bridge?? check it out it is comforting...Remember he knows how much you love him and will wait until you meet again!! It is so hard to lose a special companion. Condolences to you and your children.

[This message edited by icantakeit at 12:42 AM, August 3rd (Saturday)]


Posts: 3 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: New England
authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 8:45 AM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is one of the toughest and most selfless things we can do as pet owners.

I'm sorry for the loss of your beloved friend.


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


Posts: 38627 | Registered: Sep 2007
lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm very sorry. I know how difficult it can be, but this is truly a loving thing you are doing for your best friend.

((((hugs))))


Sometimes the strongest people hide the deepest pain.

Posts: 13832 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Houston
million pieces
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Default  Posted: 10:54 AM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've just gone through this twice in the past 4 months. First time I waited until it was too late and I felt so bad. The next time I almost feel like I did it too early because I was just sooooo afraid of her suffering when I wasn't around like her sister did. They were both at least 15yrs a HUGE part of my life. Like yours, they helped me through all the craziness and gave me a reason to function when my kids were not with me. They kept me going. Now I come home for the first time in 15 yrs to a empty house. Actually, the first time ever.

Dog Heaven was a wonderfully sweet book that I read w both of my kids. And I still cry.


Me - 42
2 kids, 9 and 12
D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later
Divorced 11/15/11!!!!

Posts: 1278 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: MD
SoVerySadNow
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Default  Posted: 11:04 AM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh this is heartbreaking. Hug your friend close.
I'm sorry.


Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

Posts: 1292 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
movingforward777
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Default  Posted: 11:12 AM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry that you have to go through this...but as others have said part of being a good pet owner is knowing when it is time to let them go peacefully and not suffer any more.....
Maybe in time you will be ready to have another dog....in the meantime remember all the good times and do what is right for your dog....he's crossing the "rainbow bridge" to run and play with other dogs, free of pain and suffering.....HUGS


You can't reach for anything new if your hands are still full of yesterday's junk.......Louise Smith

Posts: 4845 | Registered: Apr 2005 | From: Ontario
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 11:59 AM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Lost & Doggie)))

I am so sorry.


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Mommato4
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Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Lost))))

I'm so sorry for the loss of your fur baby. I had a Jack too. They are wonderful dogs.

I went through something similar with mine last year and we couldn't pinpoint what it was for 8 months. When we finally figured it out, I learned it was a fatal disease. I had to make the hard decision. He was just shy of 6 years old and he was the dog I went through the divorce mess with. I understand that pain.

I had him cremated and he sits on my mantle with his ceramic paw print of that day so he's here with me always.

[This message edited by Mommato4 at 12:13 PM, August 3rd (Saturday)]


Updated 2014:
BS-me 41
XH-doesn't matter
4 kids
Divorced-7/25/08

SO-5 years together-he decided to end it by cheating too


Posts: 1379 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: PNW country
DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 12:14 PM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry for you and your furbaby

((((Lost & kids & Best Friend))))


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 25 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 30
Dday: Dec 2008
Limbo-ish, again (after multiple S) -- weighing my options

Posts: 2654 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry. ((Lost and pup))


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7813 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 12:36 PM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry for the loss of your best buddy...

Please take comfort in the fact that you did everything you could for him and are doing what is best for him now.

(((Lost)))


Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

Posts: 24653 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
persevere
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Default  Posted: 3:08 PM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry LandG But you've done all you can do, and not letting your best friend suffer is the right choice. ((LandG))


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4668 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
purplejacket4
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Default  Posted: 3:24 PM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So very sorry. Hugs!


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

Posts: 2295 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
knightsbff
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Default  Posted: 4:13 PM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry LandG.

Prayers and hugs.


FWW 40's
D-day August 27, 2012
3 kids and 2 dogs

I edit often because I make a lot of typos. ☺️


Posts: 1509 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Deep South, USA
Want2help
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Default  Posted: 6:04 PM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((LostandGuilty)))))
(((((BestFriend)))))

I am so, so sorry.


BS- me.
FWS- him.
DDay 6/07 (immediately separated)
RDay 8/07
OC born 3/08
OC Adopted 2014

Reconciled


Posts: 2333 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: PNW
notmeanymore
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Default  Posted: 8:19 PM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Lost & His Best Friend))

You shouldn't feel guilty, but I know it's easier said than done.


"Put the cuckoo back in the clock baby" - Four Brothers

Posts: 877 | Registered: Feb 2006
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 7:04 AM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What you are doing is an act of love, and he knows that you love him. (((((LostandGuilty)))))


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20432 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
sullymeishadomi
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Default  Posted: 7:20 PM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Lost)). Youre truly blessed to have such a good friend. ((Doggie))


People tell you exactly who they are...why expect them to be what they are not ....will be divorcing the selfish creep.

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