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♂ 39885
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Default  Posted: 11:10 AM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We talked today about whacking up the money. I gave her the honest numbers as far as what she owes to "the cause" for now and what she would have left over every week. She didn't like the number but I told her frankly that it was going to be her reality in the near future anyhow so she better get used to it. She lashed out a bit but I was calm and real. Eventually she agreed that my solution was the most fair way to go. So at least I'll be free concern from her reckless spending habits. If she runs herself into the ground it's her problem. Feels good to be moving on.

Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.

Posts: 799 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: The beach.
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Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 1:13 PM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you, for keeping it factual and business like!

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

Posts: 10048 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
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Default  Posted: 5:34 PM, August 6th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This part isn't easy, is it? I finally learned the hard way that Nearly Exh isn't honest about that with me, either. So when a problem comes along, I learned to put it in the L pile. It's still quite aggravating, but goes by quicker.

Good for you for remaining calm-not an easy feat.

I'm trying to learn to wear the "stone face". It's not natural for me.

And yes, I, too, hope to become less and less connected about money, as he's not good with it either and deadlines or due dates don't bother him...just boundaries to be broken.

Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington

Posts: 3034 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
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