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Sad in AZ posted 8/3/2013 15:17 PM

OIAL asked me to post this for him:

"I asked DS to kindly shut down my profile because I was spending far too much time on SI To the couple people that sent me a PM, I failed to respond because I, well, can't. Lastly my thanks and fond wishes to all."

So sorry to see him go.

gahurts posted 8/3/2013 15:18 PM

I hate that he left.

timeforchange posted 8/3/2013 15:20 PM

Sad to see him go... He came so far and his posts often me laugh.

But maybe this was an inevitable part of his healing and a sign of how far he has come.

If you have contact with him... I for one wish him well and much happiness.

We will miss his posts.

Amazonia posted 8/3/2013 15:23 PM

Sometimes it's healthy to take a break from some areas of our lives. OIAL seems like someone who throws himself into life with a lot of intensity, and for some people, certain situations can more easily be an all-or-nothing. I know there are times when I personally struggle with moderation, and too much reliance on a community like SI can become distracting from "real life." Taking a step back can be healthy.

Kudos to OIAL for recognizing what he needs for himself to be healthy and taking proactive steps. I do hope he comes back in time, because I'd love to hear his updates, but for now, if this isn't a healthy place for him, I'm proud of him for recognzing that.

Williesmom posted 8/3/2013 16:34 PM

I'll really miss him and his perspective.

gogirl posted 8/3/2013 17:33 PM

He is a good man and will be missed but of course wish him well.

Bluebird26 posted 8/3/2013 18:32 PM

Best wishes OIAL. We will all miss you around here.

FaithFool posted 8/3/2013 18:55 PM

Good luck OIAL! We will miss you.

259 posted 8/3/2013 19:37 PM

I mostly just lurk and read. I will miss his posts, he often wrote something that I could relate to.

wishing OIAL a happy NB

tryingagain74 posted 8/3/2013 21:01 PM

I wondered where he went. I'm sorry to hear he's gone.

Take care, OIAL! Your fellow alum will miss you.

seekingright2013 posted 8/3/2013 22:08 PM

Aw shucks. I too will miss OIAL's posts and perspectives, and wish him well.

It takes some intestinal guts to post one's trials & tribulations and be willing to take shots (or 2x4s) from the peanut gallery. I am grateful to be able to learn from OIAL's perspective, and sure appreciated his open-ness.

The other thing is that it's really nice to have confirmation that there are good guys out there who are faithful. This would go for all the male BS's who post here, of course. In a world which sometimes seems full of selfish jerks, it was nice to read from someone who wasn't.

Wishing you well, OIAL. We will miss you.

Seeking

Nature_Girl posted 8/3/2013 23:39 PM

Griefstricken25 posted 8/4/2013 02:57 AM

Aww.

His humour and ability to laugh at himself was refreshing. I wish him well.

She11ybeanz posted 8/4/2013 05:59 AM

I'm really gonna miss him....

better4me posted 8/4/2013 12:17 PM

I'm gonna miss him too, I love his sense of humor and self deprecating comments. I understand the need to take a break and how hard that can be when the fix is just a click away! (Kind of like OLD for me!) Please communicate all of this SI love to OIAL for us Sad.

little turtle posted 8/4/2013 14:46 PM

OIAL is such a great man. I wish him nothing but the best. I hope he comes back with updates... otherwise I will always wonder how he is doing!

torn2bits posted 8/4/2013 14:58 PM

It was nice to have been a part of the growth process for him after infidelity. Real life is always more fun.

OIAL, good luck and much happiness to you! You will be missed.

InnerLight posted 8/4/2013 16:37 PM

Too bad for us! He was a great contributor and shared so personally that I feel like a friend has left town. I wish him all the best.

persevere posted 8/4/2013 23:35 PM

We all need a break now and again. Hope he finds his peace and considers rejoining us if he'd like to at some point.

Jrazz posted 8/5/2013 01:12 AM

Wishing him the best.