Talking IS important...I am struggling tonight to figure out a more productive way of talking.
I had one of those curiosity, turn to a light trigger, matured into anger type of conversations with my wife tonight.
10 months of counseling and still we struggle...I would give my next paycheck to figure out how to....Check my assumptions of what my wife means with my wife....effectively.
Seems like we jumble this up...each of us thinking the other is arguing to change the others mind rather then seeking to understand.
I did enjoy your post...it is amazing to me how two people engaged in the same situation can have such differing assumptions of what just happened.
Anger seems to be our downfall...anger born from both grief and frustration.
Glad you posted this...hope others find the courage to keep trying to talk and engage positively with their spouses...especially after a difficult situation.
Character is not built by getting thrown off a horse..it is built by consistently getting back up on that horse to get thrown again...and do it with the same level of enthusiasm as you did the very first time.
(if you kinda liked that thought...well then it is all mine....if you don't, well then it is a bastardized version of Mark Twains...one of my favorite authors.) (it really is something I got from Mark Twain....much of my apparent knowledge is actually someone elses that I borrow as I need it!)
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