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Tear (original poster new member #38746) posted at 7:19 AM on Sunday, August 4th, 2013
its been 8 months since dday and yesterday we found out our baby has died . waiting for the miscarriage to happen.......what did i do to deserve this much pain in such a little time frame? i could fill an ocean with the amount of tears i have cried these past eight months......i needed this baby so much but now it is gone..... i feel like a shell of the person i once was......how much pain can one person handle?
noescape ( member #34888) posted at 7:30 AM on Sunday, August 4th, 2013
blakesteele ( member #38044) posted at 7:31 AM on Sunday, August 4th, 2013
((((tear))))((((tear)))))
ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.
blakesteele ( member #38044) posted at 8:11 AM on Sunday, August 4th, 2013
I am so sad to read this post.
Honestly, I have difficulty dealing with the hurt from my pretty textbook betrayal...so I certainly don't have the words to comfort you other then to say I am praying for you and that peace will find its way to you tonight.
I am sure more intelligent people will post to you...but I see it is 2 am where I am at and didn't think many people are on at this hour...and I felt compelled to try to comfort you...try and help you for a few moments anyway. Do you have a counselor working with you guys? a pastor you can call? There are prayer hotlines that are free.
I talk a lot when I am anxious...thus the longish post with not much content.
God be with you.
[This message edited by blakesteele at 2:16 AM, August 4th (Sunday)]
ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.
ItsaClimb ( member #37107) posted at 8:16 AM on Sunday, August 4th, 2013
I'm so, so sorry Tear {hugs}
BS 52
Together 35 yrs, M 31 years
2 daughters 30yo(married with 2 children) & 25yo
D-Day 18 Aug 2012
6mth EA lead to 4mth PA with CO-W. I found out 8 1/2 yrs later
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 8:34 AM on Sunday, August 4th, 2013
(((HUGS))) I am so sorry. There are no words to convey how much.
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
TemporalReset ( member #40125) posted at 8:38 AM on Sunday, August 4th, 2013
Tear,
I have no words to describe how sorry I am. If I could take any of your pain on me I would. Just know that there are people thinking about you right now and sending you love.
I know absolutely nothing about you but if you need someone to talk to, PM me, I am at work until 5:30 am est with absolutely nothing to do.
TR
Me: BS 40
Her: WS 32
Kids: 3,6
A1 - Summer 2009 PA, 2009-2011 Incomplete or False R
A2 - 2012-2013 EA
Status: NC AP, MC & R
Ostrich80 ( member #34827) posted at 9:01 AM on Sunday, August 4th, 2013
I'm so very sorry for your loss Tear.
BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????
brainless twit ( member #12085) posted at 9:08 AM on Sunday, August 4th, 2013
Praying that you receive comfort... I can't imagine and I am so, so sorry.
((((((((Tear))))))))
"Sometimes I guess there just aren't enough rocks." --Forrest Gump
D-Day 8/7/06
Divorced 12/14/09
R Began 5/21/11
D-Day #2 7/9/13 (OW #2 is OW #1's first cousin)
R Began (again) 5/03/14
Bluebird26 ( member #36445) posted at 11:14 AM on Sunday, August 4th, 2013
I am so sorry.
I know it is so hard but try and take care of yourself, one day at time.
((tear))
Me: BW
Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.
Life's good.
monarchwings ( member #39891) posted at 12:28 PM on Sunday, August 4th, 2013
I am so sorry for your loss of your sweet baby. I have have lost a child. I understand the pain so I will share in your grief. I remember it hurting so bad that my heart felt like it was going to break open. I have since learned that death is indiscriminate. Time will heal and you will get through this prayers to you....
nomistakeaboutit ( member #36857) posted at 12:29 PM on Sunday, August 4th, 2013
Me: BH 65.........Her: WW 55
DD: 15.......DS: 12. (5 and 2 on DDay)
Married for six years.
DDay: 12-25-11 Divorced: 7-15-12
...................................
Chefj9 ( member #38604) posted at 1:40 PM on Sunday, August 4th, 2013
I am so sorry for your loss. Prayers for you.
ME - BS 50, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 26,16, 15 and 13
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/13/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere
authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 1:45 PM on Sunday, August 4th, 2013
DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.
cayc ( member #21964) posted at 1:51 PM on Sunday, August 4th, 2013
Walking ( member #40102) posted at 1:58 PM on Sunday, August 4th, 2013
I am so sorry for you. Truly. I hope you have found a good therapist. These set backs are the heavy lifting in life so don't try and cope alone, or only with a partner you may still have trust issues with. Surround yourself with as much support as you can get. Your OB/Gyn doctor may be able to recommend a good loss counselor. Hugs from afar.
5454real ( member #37455) posted at 2:03 PM on Sunday, August 4th, 2013
condolences and prayers.
(((Tear)))
BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
― Sophocle
Take2 ( member #23890) posted at 2:08 PM on Sunday, August 4th, 2013
Hugs and Prayers (((Tear))). I am so very sorry.
"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 2:10 PM on Sunday, August 4th, 2013
(((Tear)))
I am so sorry. 
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 2:23 PM on Sunday, August 4th, 2013
(((((((Tear)))))))
I am so sorry. Please keep posting.
Their are several of us on this site who have Angel Babies. There is nothing worse than feeling you are alone in dealing with this. We are here for you.
Hugs,
K
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
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