I have a friend I have known close to 20 years. I stood by her when everyone lost touch of her. She stopped calling people. Fast forward 7 years and I no matter what always call her because she has a rough time of things and I care. We check in etc. She is very bright but quits every job she has and doesn't see what will happen if she doesn't have a job- now granted her jobs are stressful.
The thing is I care about her but 6 months ago I called her and she never responded and I card again assuming she was not feeling well and worried. She wrote back that she can't talk due to her life and she would be in touch. Ok so I left it but last month hadn't heard and I am one of her only friends and she doesn't respond - just told her if she needed anything etc. There have been a lot of changes on my end and I have an off feeling about her end.
I don't know why I feel this way but as much as I have been there which she has stated I understand her needing time but what if I did and I don't really need her support. Is she actually a good friend?
Most of the others think she is self absorbed but I know she isn't in her heart. She just can't handle life.
Do I just let it go and stop checking in with her? Is that being a good friend on my part? I guess I would be hurt because when things are better or she needs me she will write and she would have missed major times in my life.
I don't know maybe it is just feeling hurt.