My wh is bipolar 1. He engaged in his A when he was undiagnosed and in a manic period.
I have really stood by him and helped him the past few years. Really worked hard on him and on me. He was abusive before (usually due to manic phases, but I didn't understand that back then) and I had really low self esteem. Been thru lots of therapy.
Well, wh is pretty good... Respects me now & appreciates me. This weekend though, I don't know what is going on... I did recently tell him that I am taking the kids to visit my family for 2 weeks and he is freaking out.
He is being a 'jerk'. Maybe because he is freaking out about us not being here (this is what he Has told me).
Today, he yelled at me, complained about a new venture I am excited about, and then told me to " go and actually do something around the house and make me a sandwich "
I did not make him a sandwich.
And for the record, I cleaned all 3 bathrooms today, plus the oven, did 2 loads of laundry and a load of dishes. And went grocery shopping. So I haven't been watching TV and eating bon bons all day
I just do not want to R with this. I Think, I wonder if I should just throw in the towel? I could find a nice person... Maybe not a crazy passionate romance like I had with wh, but a nice stable guy, have another kid or 2 ( which I don't think will happen if I stay because wh is so unstable).
Truth-- I stay because of money and because I don't want to 'share" the kids. I do like wh some times, but I don't think I love him. I think I was so hurt by him that I have blocked off all feelings about him. I feel very numb when it comes to wh.