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User Topic: working on my resume and beginning the job hunt...
Alyssamd24
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Default  Posted: 8:27 PM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have started to rewrite my resume and have been looking for new jobs..I also told my BH last night that I am going to start looking for a new job. It may take a while before I find something, and also find a new preschool for my daughter but I am going to do it....he seemed relieved and happy to hear this.

Now the question is, do I want to go out with a bang or not...meaning, I could just give my boss my notice, explain I need more money and go on my way, leaving on good terms and saving the friendships I have with my coworkers.

Or, I could tell my boss the truth....that the reason I am leaving is I had an A with a parent and I can no longer be there...and expose him for who he is.

I have mixed feelings and am not sure what I should do....any thoughts/opinions?


"I need to be redeemed to the one I've sinned against because he's all I ever knew of love"

Posts: 938 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Massachusetts
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 8:37 PM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you Jesus. It's about time.

Question - Why go out with a bang? Does your boss have to know why? Or are you wanting the AP to suffer from the A as well?

I think it depends on your motive.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne


Posts: 6527 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 8:41 PM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Do this for yourself. Do it because you want to heal and save your marriage. Why invite more drama into your life? Don't you want to get to a peaceful place?

Focus on what's important.


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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brkn_heartd
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Default  Posted: 8:53 PM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is a small world. While going out with a bang might feel good for a few minutes, it could haunt you for a long time. Give notice and keep your relationships intact. You never know where in life you will run into those you work with now.


Me-51 BS
Him 58-WS
Married 31 yrs, together 34
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10

Posts: 1713 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Northwesten US
badchoice
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Default  Posted: 8:58 PM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you, and good luck.

I think you should not invite any additional drama into your life. When it is time, give your notice and leave on good terms.


Me: fWH/BH 46

Separated transitioning to D


Posts: 730 | Registered: May 2012 | From: L.A.
Alyssamd24
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Default  Posted: 9:00 PM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Everything you are all saying is kinda what I was thinking also..I would rather leave on a good note and keep those relationships intact.


"I need to be redeemed to the one I've sinned against because he's all I ever knew of love"

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SurprisinglyOkay
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Default  Posted: 9:13 PM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree too!!!

I'm glad for you! I think you'll do a lot better, not seeing them everyday

Good Move Alyssamd, Good Luck on your job search!!


FWS me 37 (recovering addict)
BS him 40 AFrayedKnot
Together 7 years
2 children


"Your secrets keep you sick"


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knightsbff
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Default  Posted: 9:25 PM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good job Alyssa!

Wishing you peace of mind.


FWW 40's
D-day August 27, 2012
3 kids and 2 dogs

I edit often because I make a lot of typos. ☺️


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SandAway
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Default  Posted: 8:49 PM, August 5th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you!

I don't think you should go out with a bang either, but I do think you should expose him to his wife.

She deserves to know.


fWW
BH Tred
M 16yrs
DDay Nov. 2011

Guns don't kill people; Affairs kill people


Posts: 439 | Registered: Dec 2012
Alyssamd24
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Default  Posted: 8:52 PM, August 5th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sandaway,
I think exposing him to his wife would create the bang. I think if I were to expose him he would deny everything and say I am lying.


"I need to be redeemed to the one I've sinned against because he's all I ever knew of love"

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