Nearly Exh has been a huge bully as we close in on divorce. He's kind of like a snowplow through our lives and then gone again.
He's growled at me about communicating with DD and told me without hesitation to BUTT OUT.
Well, tonight the Karma Bus made a stop and he got pulled over. Apparently DD knew of this and now some strange behavior is explained (extra clingy girl).
The question is, I got a message from him asking me to communicate a message between them that he is ok.
I feel very mixed up and angry and don't know how rational it is that something small be a trigger, but I think it's the whole control issue?
I have not replied to the messages from him, as I don't know how. My impulse is sarcasm, but all that gets me is a fight or silence and he complains to his lawyer.
I'm tired of being a doormat, but I saw her worry about something and she wouldn't tell me it was about him.
What do I do? If I tell her I feel under his control, even hours away, and if I don't tell her, she will worry. Again I notice that she didn't tell me there was an issue with him, though, that stands out in a huge way and I don't like that at all.
If I don't tell her, I chance getting a yelling at anyway and he could still complain to his lawyer that I am in the way.
What to do?
You gave me nothing and now it's all I've got - Bono
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
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