He keeps it in check most of the time but it will occasionally spew out-especially if doing something difficult like a home project.
I've lived this. Each and every time we had a plumbing
problem, this "Frustrated Beast" would emerge. Plumbing
turned him into the Devil each.and.every.time.
Yes, it was easier -- financially and emotionally -- to just hire a professional plumber. *I* saw that. But he had some pride issue going with plumbing that was irrational!
Is that what you're talking about?
We are almost three years out.
Is this enough time for you to take an honest, objective look at the big picture?
Do you have occasional "plumbing" problems?
Or is his disdain directed only at you?
Falling out of “love”:
*Phase 1: disillusion and disappointment: Men were more likely to indicate that they withdrew, emotionally and/or physically, from their spouse.
*Phase 2: anger, hurt and resentment: shut down, dismiss, devalue, avoid, detach, retreat, “de-invest,” attack, “the angry glare,” disdain
*Phase 3: apathy and emotional indifference: devastation of “ambiguous loss” where the partners are in physical proximity but the emotional connection has been lost; dealing with long-term negative emotions, self-care, and acceptance of the partners emotional indifference [lack of strong positive emotion; low levels of love; relatively little negative emotion] turning points tended to fall into one of three categories:
1. spouses’ controlling behaviors;
2. spouses’ lack of responsibility; and
3. spouses’ lack of emotional support