Grief, loss and pain taunt her - "you will never be the same." Like a Phoenix rising from the ashes, she rises and spreads her new wings as she brushes off the ashes an
Married 3 y
Together 10.5 years
2 kids 12 y and 10mo
D-Day 07/18/12 (I was 6 mo preg)
Taking it day by day
[This message edited by SS2012 at 4:52 PM, August 5th (Monday)]
The A is about your WH only. Not at all about the OW.
The OW could've been any woman. Good looking, ugly, etc. It happened to be that particular woman because she was willing to have an A. If she wasn't so dirty as to be willing to have an A, WH would've kept looking.
Most importantly, the A is not about you. It's not about what you look like. It's not about how wonderful you are. It's about your WH's personal issues only.
Intellectually, I firmly believe in the above. In my heart, it's so hard to accept it because an A is so selfish and I hate the idea of my WW spouse being so self-centred when I always thought of her. I imagine you feel the same way.
My WW's hot. I'm in good shape. OM is a rat with glasses. Go figure, eh?
sodamnlost how did you stop texing / wanting to communicate with her? I am struggling with that myself I met with her the day after I found out and have been stiffling the urge to call/text etc every day....
It was hard at first then it just was normal. I struggled with wanting to during our hell week which I know makes no sense. I have no use for her - she gave me the info I wanted. Ironically she texted me tonight and I am now triggering like a MO-FO with that rage that feels like murder is the only release. No more crazy making for me - that's what talking to her is - crazy making. I am reclaiming my life slowly, this is just one small step.