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User Topic: I just lost my job....
thebirdcage
♀ 39274
Member # 39274
Default  Posted: 12:01 PM, August 5th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is my second pregnancy. My first son was still born in March at 26 weeks. I am currently 15 weeks along. After our loss I was diagnosed with factor II blood clotting disorder and am currently on lovenox and baby aspirin in hopes that this pregnancy will conclude in the delivery of a safe and healthy baby. A month after our loss was Dday. And one month later our HB baby was conceived. We are both working hard at R and have had our good and bad days.

I worked as a field coordinator in a distribution warehouse up until 4 weeks ago. My pregnancy is considered high risk and because of this I have lifting restrictions on the weight I can lift. My job description states that I must be able to lift 35 pounds, my Doctor has stated I can not lift more than 20 due to my high risk pregnancy.

My employer has put me on unpaid leave until I am able to lift 35 pounds, which,God willing, will be after my delivery in January and maternity leave. They will not fire me so they don't have to pay unemployment or get sued for firing a pregnant woman. I am out of an income and am terrified. I have a wonderful support team built of my love and immediate family. Unfortunately, they are also all struggling working class people as well. The baby is due in January and right now it looks like our only option is moving in with my mother in a two bedroom apartment. Although I cannot begin to describe how grateful I am to have a place to go, I am sad that the house we were looking into buying (our dream home) is no longer an option for us due to me not having an income. I don't know how I am going to even make monthly bills.

I need help. I've worked hard since age 15 and have always been able to take care of myself. It's been a fight with pride to even accept help or ask for it. These past few months have been devastating and the loss of my son was by far the worst pain I will ever endure. Having experienced that I know I am stronger and will make it through all this. Having a dday after the loss was almost unbearable. But I've made it and am trying to keep my head high.

Does anyone know of any support? Anyone who is willing to help? Any organizations? Just a point in the right direction will be of most help. Praying constantly... Sometimes I feel so hopeless but the memory of my son and the hope for the healthy delivery of my growing baby keep me going!


Posts: 30 | Registered: May 2013
KeepCalm_CarryOn
♀ 33374
Member # 33374
Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, August 5th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Talk to an attorney. Your doctor put you on restriction, not no work, I don't think your employer can put you on unpaid leave if you can still perform other functions. I was injured previously at a different job and they have to provide accommodations so I could still work. Check the laws in your area.


You are not dealing with rational people or situations. Normal thought processes won't work...story of my life.

Me- BW, 30
Him- fWh, 36
Mostly R'd, minus a few scars...bought a house and got a puppy...And baby makes 3! She arrived August 2013


Posts: 2043 | Registered: Sep 2011
Blobette
♀ 36519
Member # 36519
Default  Posted: 12:18 PM, August 5th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't have any useful advice, but I do want to give you a virtual hug ((((((birdcage)))))

So sorry you're in such a tough spot.


BS (me): 50
WS: 50
Married: 26 yrs
Kids: 2
OW: Co-worker, 7 yr LTA
DD 8/1/2012, Working on R

Posts: 1061 | Registered: Aug 2012
Blobette
♀ 36519
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Default  Posted: 12:18 PM, August 5th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't have any useful advice, but I do want to give you a virtual hug ((((((birdcage)))))

So sorry you're in such a tough spot.


BS (me): 50
WS: 50
Married: 26 yrs
Kids: 2
OW: Co-worker, 7 yr LTA
DD 8/1/2012, Working on R

Posts: 1061 | Registered: Aug 2012
Tesa
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Member # 10002
Default  Posted: 12:19 PM, August 5th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There are several food banks and religious organizations that help financially needy people out when hit with these type of unexpected troubles. (SevenLoaves here in the dallas area, I know provides help with electric bills ect). .

Contact your creditors (mortgage, car, school loans) and tell them your medical status. You might be able to defer or skip a payment(s). Contact your states health and human services dept & find out if you qualify for state aid.


Itís a humbling experience to ask for help but itís out there.


Posts: 1061 | Registered: Mar 2006
StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, August 5th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Look into WIC, it was a huge help for us.


"You have insulted my footwear."

Posts: 7563 | Registered: May 2010 | From: USA
thebirdcage
♀ 39274
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Default  Posted: 4:58 PM, August 5th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you everyone for your sweet replies. Means the world. God bless.

Posts: 30 | Registered: May 2013
decoyname
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Default  Posted: 9:42 PM, August 5th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have been a member for a long time and read here a lot but never post but I just couldn't pass up this post.

Thebirdcage you should really contact the EEOC and talk to them about your situation. Your employer may be violating all kinds of laws, including the Pregnancy Discrimination Act and ADA, depending on your specific situation (blood clotting disorder).

Good luck.


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webmistress
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Default  Posted: 10:12 PM, August 5th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Contact your local Department of Human Services, and apply for food stamps, cash assistance and Medicaid. They can sometimes help with your utility or medical bills if you're behind as well. Call your utility companies too, they will have a list of organizations that help pay water and electric bills for those in need.


Me: BW-42
Ex-WH: 34
Married: 6 years
DDay #1: 10/5/10, one week before our daughters 4th birthday
D official 2/23/11
DDay#2: 10/20/12, after 8 months of false R
OW: Delusional, stupid whore; OC officially XH's
In R

Posts: 1355 | Registered: Oct 2010
musiclovingmom
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Default  Posted: 10:21 PM, August 5th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Check with local churches. I live in a small town and attend a large church. We just purchased 2 small homes adjacent to church property that are being repaired and remodeled (they were all but condemned). Once construction is complete, they will be specifically to provide homes for people struggling due to circumstances. Maybe someone in your area has a similar program.

Posts: 1135 | Registered: Jan 2013
Hrtbrken1
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Default  Posted: 10:31 PM, August 5th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh Birdcage, I am so sorry! Another stress you don't need!

Have you been able to talk to HR? This sounds highly illegal. While they didn't fire you, they are also discriminating against you. Gah! I'm so po'd for you! I am glad to hear you're still pregnant, so at least that's a blessing.


Me-BW
Him-WH
Together 16 years, married 10.
DDay 07/26/2011, 8 month EA/PA with friend of our family. Months of TT.
DDay#2 Early spring 2012, confirmed EA with another woman.

Posts: 144 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Sunny South
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