I'm 10 months from D-Day, and suddenly have a sense of apathy. Our R is going strong, but lately I'm keeping my distance and doing my own thing and it's making me happy.
The crazy sex phase is over, and now I just don't care if we have sex or not. We act like roommates, and I've been somewhat ignoring his advances and attempts to reach out. I love him and want to R, but I just need space.
I know that this is not the way to rebuild a marriage, but frankly, I'm not ready to give him XYZ to make our marriage stronger because I don't think he deserves it!
On one hand, I want to meet his needs and be a better wife to start rebuilding - but at the same time, I want to scare him a bit and show him that I don't need him!
Just writing this makes it sound messed up. How do you restore a marriage when you don't have that respect for your WS yet? I just don't have the energy to do the work yet! I want more time to put MY needs first, but that obviously is not helping rebuild my marriage.