From the very start of this roller coaster ride I have purposely asked for very few details. I told my WH to tell me things when he felt comfortable. He was always very willing to answer questions that I had to know the answers to. Now he is voluntarily telling me things about the OW. I have found out things that are actually making this a little easier. Like he never met her outside of work. He rarely texted or called her outside of work. And he always told her that he would never leave me. Since he volunteered these things freely, without me asking, I completely believe him. It feels like real progress.