Saturday, after leaving our son's birthday party, I told her I needed to ask questions. I hated doing this on his birthday, but finding the best time is impossible.
I also told her I was not taking a break like last time. If she really loves me she'll answer my questions whenever I ask.
I gave her my Kindle copy of "How to Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Affair". I hope she reads this. I also told her to come to SI. If she can not understand why I need to know the good people at SI will tell her.
"How can this help" was her response. At first she wasn't happy and resisted a bit. She did answer my questions for the 1.25 hour drive home.
Right before getting home she said she felt a little better.
I got names, I did not ask last time. Last time I did not ask for details because I did not want to upset her. Not this time. I got whys. I still need hows.
Last time she blamed alcohol. This time she told me the OM men made her feel good. They where younger then her. They boosted her ego. She had power over younger men. I like this answer better than blaming alcohol.
She admits she and OM2 played me for a fool. Which she did, I was in denial, I knew the truth but ignored it.
She told me some harsh things back then. During the car ride she told me she was trying to hurt me. She said she was saying and doing things to make me leave.
There is more but will cut this short. Over all Saturday evening was a very good start.
Then the next day I asked another question. It was like starting all over. I asked what was wrong. "How long is this going to last?", "You are never going to be happy.", "This is out of the blue." That last one really pissed me off. I didn't react to it. My thoughts were finding out about your A on Easter was out of the blue. My the son of my boss coming into my office, shutting the door and telling me that you are having an A was out of the blue.
She answered my question. Reluctantly. I don't think she was completely truthful.
I promises her I would stay out of the Wayward area. So far she hasn't posted anything. "Too busy". You aren't to busy for the other forums.
I don't think she has started the book.
We'll see what happens.