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User Topic: Signposts along the way
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Default  Posted: 9:13 AM, August 6th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well folks, it is time. My WW refuses to work on the M and will file this week.

So here are some of the signposts along the way to our D.

May 2010. I return home after being away fro business for four months to an unethusiastic welcome. (She was on the phone with her AP while I was coming home from the airport)

August 2010. I come home late from work and she has a volunteer / social group at the house. I help her clean up when they leave and we go to bed. I start to share the details of my day and she pulls out a magazine (and she never read magazines) and says that "she has had no time to herself that day"

March 2011 - after months of a bad relationship and lack of affection from her, I tell my W thought about D but have decided to recommit myself to the M and resume doing the things I did earlier in the M. Her reply "I am in a different place" and "maybe we should separate" followed by this beauty "I would never have an affair".

April 2011 - I discover condoms in her dresser and confront. She says it was a brief A and ended months earlier (she lied)

May 2011 - I suggest renewing our M vows and she did not even bother to look at the brochure I had gotten for a location near our original wedding.

June 2011 - I continued to seek answers and on the verge of obtaining phone records when my W confesses and tells (almost) all. She had sent no contact email and offerred all her passwords.

And now she was excited about renewing our marriage vows. And the idea of doing so was now repugnant to me after learning of her two year A.

So these were the main signposts leading up to DDay2. I will get to posting the signposts post DDay2 leading up to our impending D soon.

Be safe! Be happy! Be healthy! Live with ease!


BH (me, 50)
WS (her, 48)
3 wonderful teens
Heading for Happiness

Posts: 412 | Registered: Sep 2011
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Member # 36099
Default  Posted: 10:17 AM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I just wanted you to know you have been heard. It seems like she detached a long time ago.
D sucks! However, you will now be able to work on healing the wounds that run so deep.

Me- 55
WH-who cares
Divorced - May 22, 2014
Dday - Blindsided July 2012
Married 35 years
4 adult DD's, 2 SIL, 3 grandchildren

Posts: 299 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: I'm surrounded by majestic mountain ranges
Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 11:37 AM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Please use this thread.

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.

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