Is there a chance the electronics could be a trigger for him now?
While I like some electronic things, it doesn't come easy for me to learn and I still like things the old fashioned, paper and pen and phone with a chord kind of way. Nearly ExH is so electronically oriented that he thinks all of the world should be and should be at his level-or that it should come as easily. He has a background in electrical engineering, which I think helps navigate this electronic age immensely.
Anyway...one of his parts of anger at me, apparently, was my wish to do things sometimes without electronics and he felt that I should be willing to get myself moving to the speed he is-IT management. He can't fathom that I just don't need to, FWIW.
And yes, I also wonder if your H worries he will see something incriminating...maybe a trigger, as I said already?
Drinking changes people in so many ways, maybe it feeds his insecurities or makes it easier for him to say them aloud?
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