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stunnedin12 posted 8/6/2013 17:27 PM

MIA for a couple of weeks and thought I'd give a quick update. I have been working really hard on completely detaching. I think I have the detached part down as I can still look at my wh and feel nothing. The hard part is getting to be ok with feeling nothing and letting things take their course. As far as I know he has not attempted contact since I advised him I had been in contact with a lawyer. Sad that the very real possibility of divorce and losing his precious money may be the only catalyst for his trying. I'm ok with coasting - I don't know for how long. I'm ok with coasting because I do see him trying, he is being transparent, etc. I don't know how long I'll try. With that --- one of the things we've always had a silent agreement on was that he did the grilling. Well, low and behold - grilling is really a no-brainer. I don't need my wh. I WILL be ok if this marriage doesn't make it. I'm liking finding myself emerge from the crap and sh*t he threw out in the last 2 years! If he comes along for the ride, great. Who knows, maybe I'll love him someday. If he screws up, he's out and it's no skin off my back. That feels good.

Ostrich80 posted 8/6/2013 18:04 PM

Hope to be there myself one day. I've been coasting for a long time.

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