Ok here goes
Just found out hubby had a 4 month relationship with a woman I am dealing with the relationship and we are still together but there is so much underlying stuff.
We were both in the military and during that time both of us cheated. He would have affairs while deployed over 20 to his count. I had a 6 one nighters. When I found out about this affair he came clean about all of his affairs. He does not know about mine.
I am not in the least affected by the old affairs they have rolled right off my back. what bothers me is this current one because it was a 'relationship' not just an affair. He works with her and i am having trouble dealing with that fact daily.
Is this something that I am dealing with do to karma do I have the right to get upset?
Also the difference with this one is we lived together during this time I was here every night and available to him and he still went somewhere else.
Everyday he would tell me how much he loved me how much he needed me how beautiful I am.
He tells me he was relieved I found out because he tried to stop the relationship multiple times but she kept pursuing him and he couldn't break away.
He wants to stay married I don't know if I can deal with him working at the same place as this woman everyday.
Am I screwed up for even being hurt? He gave this woman the love and affection I wanted and needed from him. The sex is one thing but the relationship is what is killing me.
He told me she was nothing that he was using her and that all the things he said were lies. She pursued him and wouldn't stop and then finally he slept with her. She was in the middle of a divorce (from a man who works for hubby).
She has stalked us and then this weekend started on my facebook liking my pictures. I finally texted her asked her to leave me alone I have never invaded her life and she responded that my husbanded did. Of course i got ugly and said she was a piece of trash, a two bit whore and lots of other things that I am not to proud of. She has slept with other guys at the factory (which is why she is getting divorced).
All in all am I screwed up because I am jealous or is this fates way of paying me back for my past?
married 23 years