Well the delivery weekend has come and gone and oh, drama and excitement abound!! So I baked a cake for my SO's stepkid and if you haven't read the above thread, In a nutshell, She is 21, her mother died 6 years ago and she was giving her stepdad tons of grief on dating me for the past year and a half. Then she needed a cake for her boyfriends birthday and all of a sudden I exist!!
First of all let me say that last week was an extraordinarily stressful week for me. I'm working on a big project at work and I'm trying to sell my house for 2 1/2 years now. I finally got an interested buyer but they are making me jump thru hoops. Plus to top it off my POS ex was in town!! Well, I never did meet the stepdaughter before I made this cake for her. She emailed my SO the instructions for this cake, who forwarded them to me. It was to be a very specifically themed cake referring to a favorite song. Now creating cakes for me is like my personal art. I could never do it professionally because I make what I feel for a person. General requests are ok, but ultimately I create something personal for someone with my own interpretation. So, her instructions were very specific and I didn't think it would work. She picked out a jumble of things from the lyrics and wanted them all on this cake. So I listened to the song myself and it's all about blue things. And wha-la, it says..."if it were your birthday we would make a blue cake on a blue plate". That was it....very simple to me. So I made it simple. I don't think she liked it.
But (lucky for me?)that wasn't the focus of our meeting anyway....
I take off work Friday to drive with SO all the way down to Philly. He is extremely excited because he planned this great weekend to reward me for making this cake. We get down there and are sitting at the meeting place and she's not there. We were just suppose to basically give her the cake and go. She had her own big birthday weekend plans. He calls her, she is hysterical because she thought she could run a couple of errands before meeting us and got into a car accident. Nothing serious but the bumper ripped off her zip car. So this is how I meet her...she's hysterical crying. But like I said...took the focus right off me and this stupid cake!! Anyway we have to wait 1 and a half hours for the tow truck. And, of course, Zip car won't give her another car. She has this big surprise weekend trip planned and paid for and now no way to get there. So, of course, we take them....160 miles round trip from our wonderful planned weekend. And to top it off....on the way back to our hotel, SO's cars overheating light is flashing away for the last 60 miles. He had just gotten the engine rebuilt last week, yay.
We ended up having a great weekend the rest of the trip. Stepdaughter and boyfriend got a ride back from someone else, thank God!!
But I can tell you, I have not received a personal thank you from the stepdaughter. SO tells me he talked to her today and her boyfriend loved the cake. I guess that will do. I think I fulfilled my part. Is the ice broken..... ....maybe?
I will try to post a picture of the infamous Blue cake.....on a blue plate...
NOT WORKING... OK got it but it's so big!!!
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White cake with blueberry preserve filling and butter cream frosting
[This message edited by mariusa at 11:02 PM, August 6th (Tuesday)]
I think the lyrics led you perfectly to the right cake. Pity she hasn't reached out to thank you. I hope you know that reflects solely on HER.
You're a good egg.
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.” ― Pema Chödrön
Don't make anyone a priority when you are only an option.
You were so very nice to have done this for her. It's sad she can't take a few seconds out of her time to say thank you. It reflects badly on her, not you. You were so sweet to take time out of your busy schedule.
In my opinion, the ice is broken. The ball is now in her court to come to you. I'm anxious to see if she gives you any more of her requests
Again, the cake is beautiful. I like that you do your own interpretation!
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Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities. - J. K. Rowling
You did good. You rode the wave of drama without allowing the drama to control you.
This girl will either get it or she won't. I have a neice that sounds like her, and she has never gotten it. She is now 30-something and her parents have finally given up on her (they had a "final straw" moment recently). Of course your SO is not ready to give up on her and she is young so maybe she will redeem herself. I'm just saying, that if she does not it may be a decade or more of this behavior until your SO has his "final straw" moment.
Regardless, FABULOUS cake!!!
I hope she appreciates it and reaches out to you.
You are a good egg, mari.
She sounds like a bit of a spoiled brat, in my opinion.
But it sounds like she treats everyone in her life as her personal concierge so I'm guessing she's in for a hard life of people always letting her down and doing her wrong. Too bad. So sad.
ME - BW - 35 HIM - XWH - 39 D day: November 15th, 2009 Married: 5 Years, together 8 Divorced: December 13th, 2010 New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
I'm confused on the relationship. So does it mean your SO was her late mother's 2nd husband? What happened to her (birth/bio) father?
sounds like she treats everyone in her life as her personal concierge
^this. I hate to be a negative voice here, but I don't think the ice has been broken. It sounds like she was acting like this was a transaction, not a relationship.
ps - the cake, however, looks and sounds delicious!!
[This message edited by Amazonia at 8:47 AM, August 7th (Wednesday)]
You were very kind to make it for her, but I highly doubt that she appreciates it. She really does sound like a spoiled brat.
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
Your art is amazing. I'd bust down if someone made a cake like that for me. Truly. Art.
