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PrincessPeach06 (original poster member #39588) posted at 10:16 AM on Wednesday, August 7th, 2013
Right after Dday I ordered "How to Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Affair" but it sat unread. I tried to get him to read it (or something!) but there was excuse after excuse.
Yesterday we had a hell of a day. Once again I held it all in until I exploded in anger. I ended up sobbing telling him he needs to go above and beyond what he "thinks" he needs to do but I refuse to make him do anything or ask anymore. I stayed in our room crying while he took the boys to their sporting activities. When he came home he showed me the book (HTHYSHFYA) and he was halfway through.
Baby steps.....
I never realized how hard this road would be. I never feel 100% confident but yesterday definitely helped things.
Me (BS): 36
Him aka narcissistic psychopath (WS): 36
Married 17 years 6 kids ages 16-7
DDay #1 (EA) July '08
DDay #2 (EA/ONS- different OW) May 15, 2013
Finally this is R 8/14/13
Filed for divorce 5/8/15
AFrayedKnot ( member #36622) posted at 11:42 AM on Wednesday, August 7th, 2013
That's a great start 
BS 48fWS 44 (SurprisinglyOkay)DsD DSA whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better."Knowing is half the battle"
Dallas2 ( member #28362) posted at 2:26 PM on Wednesday, August 7th, 2013
Great! Hope he keeps at it.
TxsT ( member #39996) posted at 2:36 PM on Wednesday, August 7th, 2013
Princess....feeling your frustration over the reading thing. Hubby did IC?MC without flinching but the reading was a stumbling block. It wasn't until I got to the point where, when he said what is it that you need from me to do for you or show you, I finally said....JUST READ!!!!!
He finally started and now it is a wonderful way for us to start some deep conversations. We even highlight the parts of each book that pertain to us and write our thoughts in the margins.
T
Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)
Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!
purplejacket4 ( member #34262) posted at 3:19 PM on Wednesday, August 7th, 2013
That was the only book my fWS was willing to read. "Not Just Friends" probably has a family of book mites living in it! 
Me: BS 50
Her: FWS 53 (both family med MDs; together 23 years)
OW: who cares (PhD)
Dday: 10/11: 11/11 TT for months; NC 8/12
Limboconsiliationish
"band aids don't fix bullet holes" Taylor Swift
I NEVER mind medical ???
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 3:44 PM on Wednesday, August 7th, 2013
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