Me (BS): 36
Right after Dday I ordered "How to Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Affair" but it sat unread. I tried to get him to read it (or something!) but there was excuse after excuse.
Yesterday we had a hell of a day. Once again I held it all in until I exploded in anger. I ended up sobbing telling him he needs to go above and beyond what he "thinks" he needs to do but I refuse to make him do anything or ask anymore. I stayed in our room crying while he took the boys to their sporting activities. When he came home he showed me the book (HTHYSHFYA) and he was halfway through.
I never realized how hard this road would be. I never feel 100% confident but yesterday definitely helped things.
Him aka narcissistic psychopath (WS): 36
Married 17 years 6 kids ages 16-7
DDay #1 (EA) July '08
DDay #2 (EA/ONS- different OW) May 15, 2013
Finally this is R 8/14/13
Filed for divorce 5/8/15