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Helen of Troy posted 8/7/2013 08:31 AM

What are you doing today to take back your power?

dindy posted 8/7/2013 08:49 AM

Painting my bedroom in my new flat. It's looking great!!

Little steps for me.

Oh and I joined a dating site a few weeks ago, not fully signed up yet but enjoying the ego boost. I've even been added to someone's favourites!

I'm thinking in a few months time I'm going to sign up properly and go on a date. With no expectations, just dinner and a nice chat! :)

nutmegkitty posted 8/7/2013 09:01 AM

bought a new house
got all new dishes (old ones were wedding pressies), new mattress, new sheets, new comforter...
exercise a LOT...
growing my hair out..
tattoo...
pushing myself to try things out of my comfort zone - e.g. taking a gun safety class and playing recreational kickball.

Broken hearted61 posted 8/7/2013 09:39 AM

Living my life with just me in mind....not some random guy who chose to make me an option. I AM MY OWN PRIORITY!!!

Too_Trusting posted 8/7/2013 09:44 AM

I walked away from the job I had for 5 years that was completely sucking the joy out of my life. I am decluttering my house so I can sell it and move back to VA to be closer to my family.

cmego posted 8/7/2013 09:53 AM

Applied to graduate school.

broken2 posted 8/7/2013 11:21 AM

Great question, great thread!

I've started looking out for just me. Went to the store and bought only good, healthy things to eat. Decluttering the kitchen of "bad" food.

Sad in AZ posted 8/7/2013 11:25 AM

Moving into yet another apartment in yet another new city--following my bliss.

LadyQ posted 8/7/2013 11:26 AM

I've actually been doing a lot lately!

1. I am now sleeping ALL OVER my king sized bed. Cross-wise, upsidedown, with my feet where his head used to rest!

2. Seriously considering selling my truck. It's a great truck, but repair costs and maintenance are kicking my butt. I have a serious offer for waaayyyyy more than I owe.

3. I'm also giving thoughts to selling the house. It's too big, and again,maintenance is a killer. Yes, the kids' father is supposed to help, but that ain't happening'.

4. Been rekindling friendships.

Thanks for this! It helps to take inventory now and again...

Amazonia posted 8/7/2013 11:33 AM

Getting ready to train my replacement at the job I hate!

He starts Tuesday.

nowiknow23 posted 8/7/2013 13:46 PM

Whatever I feel like I wanna do. Gosh!

Ann124 posted 8/8/2013 07:40 AM

I rise with the sun and celebrate my new freedoms with the radio fixed to the stations I enjoy!

I start my new school job at the end of the month along with getting offers for part time work on the side ... I am taking care of me all while standing firmly on my own two feet.

It might sound so soon, but I have started my profile on a OLD site ... But mentally and physically I have been so detached since DDay that this is the right thing for me.

I just so happy to be me!

kernel posted 8/8/2013 18:59 PM

Getting ready to start online classes September 1.

InnerLight posted 8/8/2013 23:00 PM

Rebuilding the deck that rotted out on the side of the house.

My X was very handy. I am not but I took on the house and 5 acres. I've been in denial about how rotten that side of the house was getting. Just couldn't deal with it. My neighbor is leading the way and I am assisting. I now know how to tear out and install joists. It's slow going, but it feels really grounding to be getting it done. I don't need X to be my handyman!

Lisa2You posted 8/9/2013 01:04 AM

I love this thread! I'm in limbo at the moment. H and I are divorcing. He moves out on the 31st. I'm anxious to make my house my own, but can't do much with him here.

So I started in the laundry room. LOL I organized and cleaned and went crazy - even decorated it!

Also, I'm forcing myself to do one thing I'm dreading every day. For example, one day, I got the cable plan changed, cut the bill in half, and switched it so I will pay it myself.

I've been married for 30-years and even though I am fairly independent, these things aren't easy for me.

Thanks for letting me share! ~L

exhausted lady posted 8/10/2013 00:50 AM

I know this sounds weird....but I'm forcing myself to slow down. Relax. Take time to breathe again. Spend some time on things like giving myself a mani/pedi, and actually shaving my legs when they need it. I need to focus on some self care pretty bad, and it's time. Just to remind myself that I truly need to spend some time taking care of myself for a change has been harder than I'd thought.

During my dad's final weeks of life, I felt guilty taking the time to shower a couple of times a week. There simply wasn't time. I'm really having a hard time relearning how to slow down and not rush through everything not related to the care of someone else.

I treasure every minute that I spent taking care of my dad, but now I just don't know how to change back to a "normal" routine....so I'm trying really hard to slow down.

Loyalty2Liberty posted 8/10/2013 05:24 AM

Today, I go somewhere he forbade me from going while we were married.

There, I will meet and harmlessly interact with many people in a harmless, platonic fashion. This is something he did not comprihend me doing, chiefly because he wouldn't want to himself.

These interactions will involve me displaying competance, diligence and integrity that he liked to believe I lacked. At least, he told himself I was lazy, incompetant, and untrustworthy to justify being a controling prick.

Yes, some sort of illness set in when the infidelity and abuse anxiety weakened my body, and I haven't figured out how to get rid of it. My body will be weak, and my mind a little cloudy, and I will have to be careful to take care of myself in order to maintain basic function. I will take back some degree of my power today by bravely pressing on in spite of this. Nobody will see me sweat. The lingering effects of his douchebaggery won't stop me from doing what I need to do. Not today.

As a result of all this, I will earn money. For myself. That only I have any say in the spending of.

That's what I'm doing today.

Kajem posted 8/10/2013 12:02 PM

Today I am working on accepting the fact that I am beginning the next chapter. It involves the empty nest, and a new nest. I have never moved alone before. The changes coming are both scary and exhilarating at the same time-kind of like a roller coaster.

I love this thread, thank you for starting it.

burnt_toast posted 8/10/2013 17:00 PM

Great thread!

Today, I'm taking a day off from the attention of my loved ones. I'm not returning my calls or taking invitations.

I've had a great support network around me since I left SO, but I've had a crazy week both personally and professionally. I'm exhausted and an introvert. I need time alone to recharge and didn't get much since my breakup. Time to honor my needs.

I had naps, went to the bakery and ate a fresh olive bread in the park while reading poetry. I plan to have a boring night and sleep early.

[This message edited by burnt_toast at 5:02 PM, August 10th (Saturday)]

persevere posted 8/10/2013 23:34 PM

I don't know that I'm doing anything, but I do know that I'm finally hitting indifference, and the amount of power over my own life that I feel right now that I haven't felt since Dday is incredible! It's like a drug!

(Just posted about it in NB)

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