First, can anyone point me in the direction of the 180 information? I know ive seen it but I can't find it again!
Second, would you use the 180 if you feel like your WH is being remorseful?
Backstory: OW outed my WH. Physical affair lasting about 1 month. He had an emotional affair with multiple girls just short of a year ago. I still don't think he has taken full responsibility for that, but he did stop them immediately. Things were good for a while, and then he did it again and this time it bece physical.
He was immediately remorseful. He started IC right away and agreed to MC. He has been open and honest and doing everything he can to show me that he loves me and is sorry.
Until I start to feel better. As soon as I found out about the A I lost interest in doing things for my H. Simple things like cooking and cleaning. I stopped using pet names. We agreed we wanted to be together. I stressed that I still loved him, but had no desire to do anything for him. Those small little things, to me were acts of kindness and love. He understood and did them all himself. Things were going really well and I started to do some of those things again. And then all the stuff he did to show his remorse and the "I'm sorry"s stopped.
I kind if went backwards yesterday and he moved forward again. I did nothing and he expressed his remorse.
So is the 180 applicable here? When the WS is intermittently remorseful?