(background: the OW and my husband used to date for 3 years 20 years ago before he met me. \Then we got married and have been "happily" married for 16 years --yet she started contact with him 3 years ago unbeknownst to me.)
the other woman...she has this pintrest board. On it, she has a tab that says "my favorite places". All of the favorite places on it are all the places she went with my husband 20 years ago. the place the met, all their date locations...and then the weird part is we moved away to another state and she has on it all the places my husband and I lived too!
the whole thing is sick to me! Surely she went places with her own husband that could be her favorites ? Why did she put all the locations she went with my husband on there ? That doesn't make sense to me.
I don't know much about pintrest but can you comment on it? I was going to create an anonymous account and comment on it.
Her daughter's name is even the name of a city that we lived in...the daughter was only born 3 years ago when they started talking. So, it could be that she named her after she found out where we were living.
I just find it really really weird. I don't even remember my old boyfriends. i even dated one for 5 years and i can't remember where we even went to. Besides, I have been to so many other places over the last 20 years that my husband and I went to that I like better.
I can't understand or even wrap my head around the fact that someone was obsessed with my husband for over 20 years. that someone tried to contact him and thought of him for 20 years despite being married to someone else.
For the 20 years I knew my husband I was happy. I thought he was too. But, I saw some of their emails to each other and he wrote how he thought of her every day all the time and thought of trying to contact her all the time for 20 years. I don't know if this is true or not. It never appeared that he even thought of her. I don't know if he really did or not. \he wrote how he was never happy the whole time and the only happy time in his life was when he was with the OW 20 years ago. The past 20 years was nothing but misery. It never seemed like he was in misery the whole time. He seemed happy. I think its just a lie he told the OW. I can believe he thought of her in the last 3 years since there is evidence of that in emails, phone calls, texts etc...but he never even mentioned her before the day she contacted him.
how can you live your life being obsessed with contacting your old boyfriend for closure as she said, when you are married to someone else? i do not understand.