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25yearslater (original poster member #32806) posted at 9:47 PM on Wednesday, August 7th, 2013
I think real healing for me is happening. I feel a great loss; he was 16 years old and a great cat (my cat). When my mind starts tumbling down the hole I remind myself that this has nothing to do with the A. (This was not the case last year when we lost our dog.) WH has been very supportive. It's very sad but we will get through our sorrow together.
me: 52 yrs old BW
him: 53 yrs old WH
Together: 35 years
Married: 30 years (?)
Divorced: 2/26/2016
DDay: November 2010
DDay #2: July 30, 2011
DDay #3: 11/26/11 (2nd OW)
DDay+++
pearlharbr ( member #38072) posted at 10:30 PM on Wednesday, August 7th, 2013
I'm so sorry for your loss. I recently lost my 10-yr-old cat so I can empathize with your sadness and pain. 
Glad to hear you're working through it together. My H was crying with me at the hospital when we had to put him down. So unlike when he first started having health problems during H's affair and I had to take him to vet appointments on my own.
((25yearslater))
Me: BSO, 44 / Him: WSO, 44
Together since 2000
DDay: 11/08 A with COW
Reconciled, Married 12/11
unfound ( member #12802) posted at 10:52 PM on Wednesday, August 7th, 2013
we will get through our sorrow together
yes.
I'm so sorry for your loss .
ka-mai
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catlover50 ( member #37154) posted at 1:16 AM on Thursday, August 8th, 2013
My heart goes out to you. So glad your H is supporting you.
Dday -9/23/2012
Reconciled
thisissogross ( member #30294) posted at 1:18 AM on Thursday, August 8th, 2013
((25yearslost)) our 16 year old cat crossed over just recently as well. I'm so sorry for your loss.
It was also a time of strange healing for me. Roo was our boy and we both loved him but, his deep bond was with h way more than me. seeing h struggle with decisions and grief in an authentic, mature fashion was a real eye opener for me, like I got to see facets of him that weren't familiar. As sad as the experience was, and as much as I'll always miss Roo-it was a healing time for our relationship and I feel like we made real progress. I will be thinking of you and your little guy and hoping your experience continues to be fruitful if painful.
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VD2012 ( member #36317) posted at 2:25 AM on Thursday, August 8th, 2013
I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. Pets are so precious.
My cat was an incredible source of support and love for me through my wife's affair and after. I dread the day she passes away. She actually wanted nothing to do with my wife in the months leading up to my wife's affair and during it. She normally absolutely loves my wife, but not then. Wouldn't even go near here. A couple months after D-Day she walked up to my wife and sat next to her with her paw on my wife's hand. I actually teared up at seeing her approve of my wife again and in a weird way it really helped believe that she could really change and was. You get my cat's approval, you have mine.
Me: 30 ~ Her (FR2012): 29
Together: 11 years, 2 children
D-Day 1: April 19, 2012, D-Day 2: September 13, 2015
Surrender to the truth of life.
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