((25yearslost)) our 16 year old cat crossed over just recently as well. I'm so sorry for your loss.
It was also a time of strange healing for me. Roo was our boy and we both loved him but, his deep bond was with h way more than me. seeing h struggle with decisions and grief in an authentic, mature fashion was a real eye opener for me, like I got to see facets of him that weren't familiar. As sad as the experience was, and as much as I'll always miss Roo-it was a healing time for our relationship and I feel like we made real progress. I will be thinking of you and your little guy and hoping your experience continues to be fruitful if painful.
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