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User Topic: My cat passed away and ...
♀ 32806
Member # 32806
Default  Posted: 3:47 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think real healing for me is happening. I feel a great loss; he was 16 years old and a great cat (my cat). When my mind starts tumbling down the hole I remind myself that this has nothing to do with the A. (This was not the case last year when we lost our dog.) WH has been very supportive. It's very sad but we will get through our sorrow together.

me: 51 yrs old BW
him: 52 yrs old WH
Together: 35 years
Married: 30 years (?)
2 teenagers that we love dearly!
DDay: November 2010
DDay #2: July 30, 2011 found out restarted EA with same MOW (ended before I found out)
DDay #3 & #4: 11/26/11

Posts: 124 | Registered: Jul 2011
♀ 38072
Member # 38072
Default  Posted: 4:30 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry for your loss. I recently lost my 10-yr-old cat so I can empathize with your sadness and pain.

Glad to hear you're working through it together. My H was crying with me at the hospital when we had to put him down. So unlike when he first started having health problems during H's affair and I had to take him to vet appointments on my own.


Me: BSO, 41 / Him: WSO, 41
Together since 2000
DDay: 11/08 A with COW
Reconciled, Married 12/11

Posts: 49 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: PacNW
♀ 12802
Member # 12802
Default  Posted: 4:52 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

we will get through our sorrow together


I'm so sorry for your loss .

you are free to choose, but you are not free from the consequence of your choice. *a universal paradox

Posts: 14917 | Registered: Nov 2006 | From: mercury's underboob
♀ 37154
Member # 37154
Default  Posted: 7:16 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My heart goes out to you. So glad your H is supporting you.

Dday -9/23/2012

Posts: 2090 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: northeast
♀ 30294
Member # 30294
Default  Posted: 7:18 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((25yearslost)) our 16 year old cat crossed over just recently as well. I'm so sorry for your loss.

It was also a time of strange healing for me. Roo was our boy and we both loved him but, his deep bond was with h way more than me. seeing h struggle with decisions and grief in an authentic, mature fashion was a real eye opener for me, like I got to see facets of him that weren't familiar. As sad as the experience was, and as much as I'll always miss Roo-it was a healing time for our relationship and I feel like we made real progress. I will be thinking of you and your little guy and hoping your experience continues to be fruitful if painful.

"A pair of powerful spectacles has sometimes sufficed to cure a person in love." -Friedrich Nietzsche

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Posts: 267 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: southern us
♂ 36317
Member # 36317
Default  Posted: 8:25 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. Pets are so precious.

My cat was an incredible source of support and love for me through my wife's affair and after. I dread the day she passes away. She actually wanted nothing to do with my wife in the months leading up to my wife's affair and during it. She normally absolutely loves my wife, but not then. Wouldn't even go near here. A couple months after D-Day she walked up to my wife and sat next to her with her paw on my wife's hand. I actually teared up at seeing her approve of my wife again and in a weird way it really helped believe that she could really change and was. You get my cat's approval, you have mine.

Me: 30 ~ Her (FR2012): 29
Together: 11 years, 2 children
D-Day 1: April 19, 2012, D-Day 2: September 13, 2015

Surrender to the truth of life.

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