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My 30th class reunion is this weekend. Even though I've attended all the previous ones, had a great time at each of them, and know plenty of friends who will be going, I've paid no attention to this one up until tonight, when my phone, FB, and email started blowing up with former classmates asking me if I'm coming.

*sigh*

Now I'm waffling back and forth - Go? Don't go? Show up at the casual Friday night event and ditch the dinner/dance on Saturday? Skip it all and spend the weekend recharging and catching up with my own life since I've been traveling the past two weeks?

For every pro, there's a con...

PRO: see old friends
CON: have to update old friends on the past several years (seems like it would be exhausting)

PRO: social time (one of my personal goals to stretch myself)
CON: giving up private time

PRO: It's in my hometown, so I can also spend time with my sister, nephews, and parents
CON: It's two hours from home, so I'd be cutting short my weekend errand time

PRO: Only happens every 10 years
CON: It's happening right now!

I could do this all night.

So, good people - what's your vote?

Go to it all
Go to just the casual Friday thing
Stay home and skip the whole thing

I'm in your hands. Be gentle with me.

I would skip it, but I probably won't ever go to any of mine because there are about 3 people left from high school who I want to keep in touch with, and I'd rather just grab brunch with them when I'm already in town.

Based on your past experiences, if I was you I'd go.

I'm with Moo on this one, Empress.

I agree with Moo and Nanners, I would go. You've enjoyed it in past and so you will this time. You're choosing if for just one event or the whole weekend. I doubt you will regret it.

Go on Friday. Then, decide if you want to go on Saturday. Like you said, it's only every 10 years and you had a great time last time. This is one of your current goals and you can catch up on weekend errands another day. There won't be another 30th reunion...

Who says you have to update everyone on your story?? Just give a quick version.

I can hardly argue with the collective wisdom of Moo, gma, and Princess Bananahammock.

I'll go. I'll commit to the Friday night casual thing, and then play it by ear from there.

Thanks, loves.

Cross-posted with you turtle - but we were on the same wavelength. Thanks, honey.

I agree with the masses - try out Friday and gauge it from there.

Go. If anyone asks, you divorced him because you didn't like his girlfriend. It either elicits a laugh or shocked silence.

My opinion is from my Mom's life choices.

Mom says, "As you get older it is easy to just stay home. I make it a point to search out activites to go and to do. If I don't like something I can easily leave, but more often than not I really have a good time".

Who knows, you may meet someone who's husband has just left her for another woman and is devistated and needs SI!

Or you might have no drama for an entire evening! LOL

(and if you find yourself with nothing to do for a brief period of time on Saturday or Sunday...you call that SI friend of yours who happens to live in your home town, because you would just LOVE to see her)

b4me - I was actually just plotting out whether I could grab you for lunch on Saturday!!

So... is it a date?

I would go. But then I like class reunions. Sounds like you sort of do too, at least have in the past.

It is easy (most of the time) IMO to change the subject. Just simply tell people you split with him and then talk about something else. Details not needed. I went to my 15th reunion soon after splitting with my XH. Had a good time and don't really recall talking about him much.

I didn't got to my first class reunion becuase I didn't really want to see anyone from high school..lol.

I went to my second one and had a blast. I was surprised about how different my perception of myself in highschool was from everyone else.

I thought I was an outcast and a nerd, they say me a the really smart girl who got along with everyone. Who knew Did my self esteme wonders..lol

Have a great time at that reunion!

I vote Go! My 35th reunion was last October. I was in town anyway because my dad had just passed so I'd moved back "home" months earlier to be with him. I had nothing going on but was busy wallowing and didn't want to have to explain everything.

One of my classmates wouldn't let me opt out. She picked me up, took me to every event (it was an all-weekend thing), and I had a blast! I'm so glad I went, it was definitely what I needed and a lot of fun. As a result, some of us got together again this past April because the reunion had been so much fun.

So I think you should Go

So, I went on Friday night. And I had a blast! Stayed out way too late, talked myself hoarse, and laughed more than I have in ages.

At one point, I found myself at a table with 4 other divorced classmates, each of whom had been a BS. DDay stories were traded, iTips shared, and new beginnings celebrated.

I came home the next afternoon to support a friend who is going through a D (not infidelity related), but first lingered long enough to share a delightful lunch with better4me. So good to catch up and chat.

[This message edited by nowiknow23 at 5:29 PM, August 11th (Sunday)]

I'm glad that it wasa blast

Yay! I'm glad you went and had a good time.

And now everyone's posting pictures, both from this weekend AND from way WAY back in the day.

Lordy - nothing more aging than seeing so many pictures of yourself when you were young.

[This message edited by nowiknow23 at 3:13 PM, August 12th (Monday)]