thanks I want to do something but all something's feel like I am being pathetic and petty and he gets off looking like the man in love with the crazy XW
what about this
I email his boss and tell them about his actions with OW and how he is double dipping on expenses
I email his family the following
Dear POS's family
I have no idea how this all came to this but I need to take control of my families life since I have allowed my STBXH to let it slide down this slope
My husband never helped with anything in our lives
I have a problem with codependency and I have cleaned up his messes and covered up for him and made his life work no matter how bad it got. Like I would have for an acholic or drug attic but POS's problems are a little less visible but no less destructive
My loving son has met OW a couple of times and each time POS assures him he won't do that again and that he is going to make things fine
My abandoned daughter has not had one encounter not one heart to heart about her existence nothing and now she is being expected to enjoy a family vacation with her ? the person who has inflicted so much pain on her mother and taken her father away.,, family!?!?
And my family who accepted me as a last resort and never once appologized for the way I was treated
like I was the problem all the while I did everything I could to ensure we remained close
your POS son didn't mention a party or a holiday till days before and I would change all our plans to make it work my family always came last cause they are real family who include and love and support
I was made to sleep separately when I was first pregnant with abandoned daughter but some how the mistress whore gets to go to family weddings and family vacations and spend quality time and sleep with my still legal husband
POS abandoned us while we tried to help him and forgive him and love him and instead of standing up and teaching him right from wrong or what love and family are all about you laid down and supported the crazy he made me and his kids endured
Since I opened up to you all in Sept about the affair ( which I never would have if POS has not continued it and continued to play games and make me look like the problem) I have not heard from anyone accept POS mother saying sorry things didn't work out the way you wanted hope you can still work together
what?!!!!
your POS son has destroyed my life in almost every way he can and he continues to act like a sociopath and that is the sympathy I get from your family
The reason I have never been in regular contact with any of you was because as far as I knew we were married and Don was in contact as he updated me and he never included me and I was unaware of the issue until his affair came to light
Your sons lack of progress and responsibility is all him his unhappiness is all him and his poor choices are all him and none of you can be held responsible for it any more that I should be
But for you to not support your grand kids and allow this disgusting family vacation makes you part of the problem
POS had told me he loved me and was going to make all this work almost every day from April till July 13th at which time he yelled at me blamed me and stopped contact
the next contact I has OW texting me that she would be going on vacation with POS in a week
One Week!!!
POS owes me over 7000 in child support and has no debt repayment plan and I have had my wages garnished and endured torture and abuse for years at the hands of POS and you will accept his accomplis knowing how much it will hurt me and my kids
I am dissapointed in you
I love my family more than anything
and stood by your family and your POS through things no one should have to endure
I will be fine
I will make everything ok like I always do but thought you should all know a little more of the truth that you are likely getting from POS
have a great summer
worth sending or just venting??
what can I do?
