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Default  Posted: 12:03 AM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I occasionally immersed myself in an alter ego in the past. Until recently, I have never viewed it as a healthy thing and would feel sick after a short period of time on the other side. Yet I would always go back to it.

I have been taking on the AE more and more since D-Day, and I find myself enjoying it. I am not sure if it is me exploring something I thought was unhealthy, but now realize isn't, or if I am trying to escape my reality by dipping into the AE.

*edit: D-Day was 08/01/13

[This message edited by Orbiter at 12:03 AM, August 8th (Thursday)]

Posts: 3 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Canada
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Default  Posted: 9:50 AM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumping from page 2.
I don't think this is healthy long-term behavior.

However, many of us did everything we could to escape from the pain. Alcohol, drugs, sleep, exercise, self-harm; whatever escape we could find.

Do what you need to do in order to survive, but eventually you'll have to face reality and get through everything. Eventually.

There is help, however. IC (Individual Counseling), short term antidepressant use, friends, SI, etc.

Please remember that your alter ego is an extension of yourself, and you are ultimately responsible for all the actions that are taken, under either identity. And the legal, moral, and ethical consequences.

Take care of yourself. There's a great future out there. It won't come to you; you have to go to it.

Posts: 5713 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX
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Default  Posted: 10:21 AM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am at one with my duality.

Posts: 7269 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
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Default  Posted: 2:04 PM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, you know, putting on a persona, especially if it's a persona of what you need to survive, for a short time may not be all bad. That fake it until you make it sort of thing. I know that even when I was being torn up inside, I projected a much more cool, confident, strong, and remorseless person than I actually was, which was quite sobering to my FWH at the time. I have taken that off now that I no longer need that image.

However if you're talking about your alter ego, your Evile Twin Skippy, who tortures flies and drops to all fours to bark back at dogs, and trolls for babes, then I would not recommend it, KWIM? Healthy escapism, not un-healthy.

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

Posts: 10054 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
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Default  Posted: 7:48 PM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I do not do anything illegal in my persona, and I am actually afraid to leave the house while I feel that way.

I have been going to IC for stress management since before dday, but my C is not aware of any recent developments. (bi monthly meetings)

I do not know if I should talk about this, or try to push through. Do I embrace my persona for the short term, or think long term?

Posts: 3 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Canada
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