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hexed posted 8/8/2013 12:33 PM

I made one. I'm not sure why but I know I need to go.

What do you talk about with your IC when you're not sure why you're going?

little turtle posted 8/8/2013 12:35 PM

Talk about what is going on in your life. How you're feeling about things. I'm sure one thing will lead to another.

caregiver9000 posted 8/8/2013 12:38 PM

I'm not sure why but I know I need to go.

Sounds like a good place to start to me!

(((hexed)))

wildbananas posted 8/8/2013 12:54 PM

I'd just lead off with that... you don't know why you're there but you know you need to be. I'm sure he/she will be able to ask whatever leading questions are required to get you from point A forward. It's what they do.

(((hexie)))

veelop5 posted 8/8/2013 14:03 PM

Hexed...talk about what you feel at the moment....sorry that you are having a tough time...you always help me when I am down...please feel free to message me if you must!! good luck at IC.

silentlyscreamin posted 8/8/2013 14:11 PM

I just had my first IC appt yesterday. Usually the 1st session is taking some background information, what you do for living, kids, relationships with family, etc and then you may start to get some questions about how you are feeling, what led you to call, etc. You will be surprised how fast it goes and how it can all pour out, especially if it is a good "fit" with your counselor. I actually just posted about it under the Divorce section. Although I felt sick about going and still feel a little sick about how my conversation went, it was a good kind of sick if that makes sense and I say that because "change is not comfortable" but that doesn't make it a bad thing. Good luck with your appointment and don't filter!

hexed posted 8/8/2013 14:34 PM

i should add that this is the counselor we use for famly counseling so I know her and like her.


veelop IMs with you aren't a 'must'. its always a pleasure. nice to 'see' you.

i'm not really down. just feeling unsettled, not quite right KWIM?

veelop5 posted 8/8/2013 14:37 PM

I meant if you would like to....boy my words come out wrong sometimes!!! Anytime...anytime...

InnerLight posted 8/8/2013 23:07 PM

The situation you shared with us about your guy and the party at your home with that opportunistic ex was pretty unsettling. That comes to my mind, but I imagine there are many possibilities.

I've had appointments like this... I just start with saying what I feel at the moment, and I try to stay present to the next feeling that comes up after that. It's great to be really listened to, it can help so much come up and out including our own answers to questions we didn't know we had.

Good luck.

hexed posted 8/9/2013 14:06 PM

IL

staying present in the now was a theme of the session. it was very good. it did not go in the direction I expected. it was HUGELY helpful.

I addressed the issue with TG and the opportunistic X. we covered my being to damn busy with work, my own insecurities and falling back in to some old patterns I wasn't seeing. She really helped me identify a couple things. Won't be able to see her again for about month but I'm glad I went.

click4it posted 8/9/2013 14:14 PM

hexed - glad your session was helpful. It always great when you have a counselor that really "gets it". Its hard to make that step to go see one, but well worth it. ((hexed))

little turtle posted 8/9/2013 16:29 PM

I'm glad you had a successful session. Did you make another appointment for next month?

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