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i am going on my seventh week anniversary of d-day tomorrow. i told him that i wanted to work it out, he half assed tried. i was the doormat. i had enough and told him to get out. i was hoping in my heart that he would pull his head out. hasnt happened yet. he has been in an apartment now for a week. we are not communicating really at all. we have agreed to divorce and go our seperated ways. (even though this is not what i wanted at all) but he wasnt willing to give it his all and deal with the aftermath of what he has done . so he is whimping out and running away. in my mind i want to think that he will wake up, but its looking like not anytime soon. and towards the last week or so of him living in my home he had started to villinize me and our relationship, which from what i am reading is quite common. i did some recon and discovered that he started talking to his whore again the day before he moved out. that REALLY hurt, but as i am finding out slowly but surely you cant hold on to the old marriage by your self. these small things i am finding out hurt but are helpful to start moving on, apparently without him. day by day realization is setting in and in some ways making it easier to move forward. i am in ic which helps most of my friends and family are advising me to just let it go. i am really starting to agree with them. i get sooo angry at him if he calls my son or texts either of us. he isnt necessarily saying or doing anything to upset me its just i am so pissed that he is willing to let all that we have had over the past ten years slip away without a fight. well good luck with your 21 year old little whore honey. let me know how that works out for ya!!

((((Hasslesmom))))

I'm so sorry. I am 5 weeks out from my D-day and it is still so hard. WH didn't want to try to work things out either and is now living with his 22 year old OW (we are both 30). It's sickening how quickly he dropped his family and seems to not care the smallest bit. It's true what your friends say, just try to let go and move on, but it's so much easier said than done, isn't it? Sending lots of hugs and strength to you.